Most MFM Threesomes Don't Turn Out Like This

What if you wanted to have a MFM threesome with your girlfriend and a male co-worker, but you couldn't get it up? What would you do?

Hopefully, you wouldn't stab your co-worker to death. Apparently, the guy who did the killing was jealous that his co-worker had sex with his girlfriend while he couldn't get it up. Hey, sometimes that happens, but you don't go off and kill someone because you're jealous and feeling a lack of masculinity.

I've never had a MFM threesome. I did have a MFF threesome, which I understand from Tom Paine at Polyamorously Perverse is incredibly difficult to pull off. Maybe I just lucked out because the woman in question and I started out as very good friends. We met at work. I can understand that a married straight couple cruising for a hot bi female at a swingers club could only irritate the hot bi female. There's also that pesky male fantasy of watching two women get it on and then joining in yourself. I wonder if the "hot bi female aching to do a threesome with a straight couple" is mythology. Even though I met one. Maybe the key for me was that I wasn't really looking for a MFF threesome when one materialized. I was friends with her first, and then it only escalated. The three of us spent a lot of time together at my house, watching really bad movies on TV, laughing our asses off, and hanging out. From there, things just "happened". It took several months for everything to fall in place.

Tom took a little heat for writing "As Webcam Girl put it to me after she and her husband tried the hot bi babe quest, "the good-looking ones are crazy and the sane ones are ugly." Despite all the warnings, though, couples continue to post ads (especially on poly sites) about how the right woman will "make us complete." I agree that the good-looking/ugly business is a stereotype. I wasn't aware of ads from straight couples saying that the right woman would make them feel complete. That just sounds like a bad vibe to me. My husband and I already are complete. We just lucked out finding another woman who enjoyed our company in many kinds of ways. We didn't look at swinger sites or place ads. I met her by sheer chance at work.

It could be that for people who are looking for a MFF threesome that they have to be very patient and take a lot of effort to make the shiny new woman feel comfortable. If you are looking for a hot bi babe to make your straight relationship "complete", I think you are in a world of trouble. The focus should be on her comfort and the comfort of the other woman in the triad, not on the guy getting his rocks off. That's what worked for me.

Comments

[tom paine]

Thanks for the link, I appreciate the comments. All generalizations are subject to exceptions, and we had some MFF and FMF threesomes that worked out, though the notion of any kind of stability in them seems far-fetched at best. But others's mileage may vary.

[The Countess]

I agree with you about the stability. When you have three people who are living their own lives, things change. Three people who can lives their lives in tandem are fortunate. My MFF didn't last, but I enjoyed it while it existed.