March 24, 2011
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December 02, 2010
Do As I Demand Or The Kids Die!
This post is a riff of two earlier posts I wrote, Do As We Demand Or The Bitch Dies - Part 1 and Do As We Demand Or The Bitch Dies - Part 2. Over the past couple of years there has been a rash of dads murdering their exes and children (as reported on Dastardly Dads).
The latest case making the news is giving feelings of doom for three missing children that I and other people I've talked to suspect with a sinking feeling are already dead. We now have the case of John Skelton a dad who supposedly sent his three young sons off with a woman (who likely doesn't exist) and then attempted suicide. Mom, Tanya Skelton, is obviously beside herself since her sons have been missing since Thanksgiving. Skelton had court-ordered visitation, something that shouldn't be allowed in cases with a history like this one. This isn't the first time John Skelton ran off with his boys. The day Tanya Skelton filed for divorce, John Skelton took two of the boys and spirited them to Florida. After this stunt, Tanya Skelton was awarded custody but later she and Skelton agreed to visitation with a judge's encouragement.
This story is bad enough, but the rats are coming out of the woodwork latching onto this case to promote their propaganda and to advertise their "services". More below the fold.
In 2009, we had fathers' rights advocate Jeffrey Leving pontificating about how families need supervised visitation centers to help both parents have continuing access to their children. The father's rights group The Children's Rights Council also got in on the gravy train. Lo and behold - CRC has visitation centers! Can you hear the money? The articles below are bald ploys to attract more attention - and more clients and money - for CRC's visitation centers and for Jeffery Leving. Oh, yeah, visitation centers work well. Pay the father's rights group fees for supervised visitation for fifteen years. Teenagers especially love to be in a room with toys for three hours.
Here's the piggyback-onto-a-tragedy article by an Ohio chapter of the father's rights group The Children's Rights Council. CRC is not a child welfare group. It is a male supremacy group that has made lots of money over the years from supervised visitation centers. No link. Not giving this garbage traffic.
So what's the implication here? To keep children "safe", or to give abusive dads their access regardless of how little that benefits the children? Child welfare is given lip service in this article. It's all about father supremacy and getting more clients and money for CRC visitation centers.
And national leader? Of a tiny chapter in Ohio? Oh, please...
I won't give a link to this article below by Jeffery Leving because I don't want to give it traffic, but here it is in full. It's pretty heinous, piggybacking on a tragedy of children who have been murdered - at the hands of their father. He blames these deaths on alleged bias against fathers in divorce and custody cases, and does not hold these men responsible in any way for the murders they commit.
Leving's brand of giving access to even violent fathers because it's society and its horrid attitudes about fathers that causes these tragedies is nothing new. Want to see some comments from father's rights activists about dads murdering their children and exes? These are some pretty noxious comments that give you an idea of the real nature of the father's rights movement, and it's not concern with children's welfare. It's all about male supremacy. Well, here you go:
From my article, Do As We Demand Or The Bitch Dies - Part 1:
Quotes from father's rights activists from the same article, referencing Darren Mack murdering his ex-wife and shooting the judge who heard his case. Mack got lots of sympathy from father's rights activists. No surprise there. Would you as a mom (or dad) want to give these guys access to your children? Hell, no!
Jeffrey Leving and his ilk don't care about child welfare, "equality", or giving dads a fair shake. They care only about making sure men, especially the mad dads of the father's rights movement, have the ability to lord it over the women who try to leave them. They use the children to get back at the women who have the audacity to leave them. Remember that a Florida Bar Journal article noted that abusive fathers are much more likely than nonabusive parents contest custody, not pay child support, and kidnap children. You can add killing exes and children to that list. Comments such as the above prove those facts.
April 04, 2005
Lowell Jaks Is Gearing Up For A Fight
My regular readers know that Lowell Jaks, the founder of the fathers' rights group Alliance for Noncustodial Parents Rights (ANCPR), was imprisoned for kidnapping his son and spiriting him away to the Dominican Republic. You may read my Lowell Jaks/ANCPR archive, which tells the whole story, at this link.
He is now out of jail, and he has no contact with his son. I just received word from his ex-wife Elaine Rudis-Jackson that he has shown no remorse for what he had done. He said "I'm glad we did what we did. I'm proud of what I did. I went ahead with this action." [...] "I let my principles get the better of my judgement," said Jaks. But added that he didn't agree with the court system having jurisdiction over families "and not the parents as it should be. This results in severe dislocation. The situation is just untenable, equivalent to a modern day holocaust."
I hereby invoke Godwin's Law.
Jaks recently had a hearing about his case, and he's not happy that he didn't get what he wanted. Rudis-Jackson heard him say "this is great, this is just what I wanted to have happen. The media is going to hear about this" referring to "not even being able to send a birthday card to his son".
He hasn't learned a thing, which doesn't surprise me. He has no regrets about what he had done. I think there is a danger that he could kidnap his son again, and it looks like the courts see the same possibility.
It also looks like he is still living off of ANCPR membership fees. His views haven't changed. He believes that "as of the institution of so-called 'no fault divorce' in the late 70's - has one motivation and only one. That is, to legitimate adultery by women."
This man is not fringe. ANCPR is one of the most popular (and nastiest) fathers' rights groups out there. It's driving force is helping men get out of paying child support. Jaks himself owed $100,000 in child support and penalties to his two ex-wives. I hope he continues to be denied contact with his son. It's for the best.
September 30, 2004
Lowell Jaks Due To Be Released November 9
Update January 25, 2005: Welcome, everyone who is coming here from Wampum's Koufax Awards "Best Series" nomination. This series of posts is about Lowell Jaks, the founder of the Alliance for Noncustodial Parents Rights (ANCPR), an especially nasty fathers' rights group. Jaks had kidnapped his son and spirited him away to the Dominican Republic. His son is now back in the states with his mother. Jaks just finished serving a prison sentence. I have followed this story from the very beginning. This is the newest post. To catch the entire story, start from the bottom of this category and read forward. Jaks and ANCPR are examples of how horrible fathers' rights groups and activists really are. They are not concerned with the best interests of women and children, nor do they represent decent fathers.
My long-time readers know that I have been following the Lowell Jaks case from the very beginning. Lowell Jaks, the founder of the fathers' rights group Alliance For Non-Custodial Parents Rights, is due to be released from prison on November 9. He is in jail for kidnapping his son Alec and spiriting him away to the Dominican Republic. For the full story on this case, please visit my entire Lowell Jaks/ANCPR category on my blog.
I heard from his ex-wife, Elaine, who sent me a recent article about Jaks's time in jail. I don't care much for the article because it portrays Jaks in a rather positive light, as if he is merely a beleagered father who wanted only to spend more time with his son, and that he was willing to go to jail because he wanted to be with his son. Read my entire Jaks/ANCPR category to get the real story. You'll see how inaccurate the positive depiction really is.
"In a letter on an Internet site about the Jaks situation, she wrote: "Mr. Jaks has stated that children need the love of their father not his money, but I know we didn't feel that way when my mother had to work extra hours and be gone longer, leaving us with no parent, or depending on the welfare system."
The good news is that Alec is doing very well since being returned to his mother. I'm happy to hear that. Jaks is unrepentant, and I fear that once released he may attempt to kidnap Alec again. From the article:
June 17, 2004
A Letter From Lowell Jaks, In Jail
Update, July 2, 2004: Here it is two weeks later, and Lowell Jaks still must not be getting any fan mail. What's the point of kidnapping your son and taking him to a third world country, away from his family and friends, his school, and medical assistance if he needs it, if no one knows what great sacrifices you've made in the name of fathers' rights? Why bother to go to jail for "the cause" if no one knows or cares that you're there? This post from the same fathers' rights mailing list as the other one practically begs people to write to Jaks while he rots away, unpraised, in jail. It's the third item down on the mailing list post. It's makes a BIG point twisting around what Jaks had done in writing "We don't endorse what he did. [Sure they don't. Heh.] It is a crime. He should be punished. But all of us know the anguish of being separated from our children, and perhaps similar thoughts we've had to "make things better." Fathers have no rights! Write to him while he sits in jail, wasting away! While I had not named the mailing list in my original post, I will name it in the update - A Kid's Right. The owner, John Murtari, has a penchant for stalking Senator Hillary Clinton. He's spent more than his share of time in jail. What is it with fathers' rights activists and jail time?
Poor Lowell Jaks. Here he is, sitting in jail, trying to pass himself off as the Martyr For Fathers' Rights, and he has had no visitors. Hardly anyone has written to him, even after fathers' rights activists posted his mailing address at jail on their mailing lists. His Alliance For Non-Custodial Parents Rights (ANCPR) buddies have given him a wide birth. This letter he penned from behind bars has appeared on a fathers' rights mailing list that will go unnamed. I have the original in my back-up files. As expected, he shows no remorse for kidnapping his son and spiriting him away to the Dominican Republic, all in the name of fathers' rights. He wrote that "self centered, self absorbed, hedonism, consumerism" blocks one off from what is real. It's ironic that all of that is what got him in trouble in the first place.
Get a load of this claim of his - that the "no fault" divorce "industry" exists for one purpose: "to legitimate adultery by women."
You've gotta be kidding me.
Regarding all the New Age blather and the talk of becoming a monk, remember that he has also operated as a psychic.
May 01, 2004
Fathers' Rights Activists Found My Jaks Posts
Here is more proof that fathers' rights activists are not concerned with "the best interests of the child," despite their loud protestations to the contrary. I've mentioned Robert Cheney, a. k. a. "Aaron Burr," in previous posts. Trust me, he's speaking from experience. He even admitted it in the post below. He's made a career out of landing in jail for willful refusal to pay child support he has been ordered to pay. This guy is a real piece of work.
Being jailed for refusal to pay child support as ordered by the court is not as common as conspiracy moonbats like Cheney want dads to think. There is no "debtor's prison" alive and well in the U. S. There is a difference between being unable to pay for good reason and being unwilling to pay. Guys don't land in jail for not paying child support. They land in jail for willfully refusing to follow a court order. They also have to work very hard to land in jail. All other methods of obtaining payment such as liens, garnishment, seizure of assets, payment plans, and the like are exhausted before jail time even becomes a possibility. Even poor dads in the fatherhood initiatives so dear to the Dept. of Health and Human Services aren't tossed in jail so readily. Some of them have seen their past arrearages forgiven in exchange for enrolling in a "male involvement" program. If a man is truly having a rough time that is not temporary in nature, and is not feigning in order to avoid paying, he is not tossed in jail.
For men like Cheney, "bend-over-and-pick-up-your-bar-of-soap" becomes a way of life.
Please note that the person to whom Cheney is responding has found his information from reading my blog. This post originated on a fathers' rights mailing list that will go unnamed. Oh, one more point. Someone should remind Cheney that Jaks had kidnapped his son because he refuses to pay child support he owed not only to his son's mother but also to his other ex-wife. Jaks has only himself to blame for the predicament he is in now. I think Cheney's self-centered blathering is an example of "I feel the pain you're gonna feel, Dude." Maybe it's time to re-read that post I wrote about narcissists, divorce, and contentious custody cases...
From: Aaron Burr [email deleted]
Date: Thu Apr 29, 2004 7:30 pm
Subject: Re: Jaks sentence - a/k/a if you want something done.......
No. This is NOT a good sentence.
First, he should not be in jail at all....
Secondly, the sentence is a scam, and I predict, will end in disaster for
him. The DA and county are acting in bad faith. They are not just going
to let him out and then let him serve out the rest of his Parole in
peace. No! They are going to screw around with him. They are going to
harass him. THEY ARE GOING TO GET HIM BACK IN JAIL FOR 'PAROLE VIOLATION'
ONE, TWO, THREE, FOUR MAYBE FIVE MORE TIMES!!!
If he cannot pay his extortion amounts (which are EVEN ACCRUING WHILE HE IS
IN PRISON!) If he owed $10,000 in back child support, when he gets out he
will owe almost double that.
The nanosecond he gets a job, they will vacuum virtually the whole amount
to let him live in poverty. He will pay for CS and not see his son any
more (great system).
They will electronically deduct and garnish his wages--yet soon (within the
first year) even if everything goes perfect he will be about $500 BEHIND in
his child support payments. (How can you get behind on electronic
deduction from your wages??) They do this all the time.
What they are doing, is they NEED men to fall behind so the county can
check a box called PARTIAL PAYMENTS. This box will show the Feds that
there are THOUSANDS of 'bad 'ol dads' who are pathologically, "behind" in
payments. (Poof! The county has just given themselves more money coming
in from the Feds to combat this "terrible problem' (which they invent
against many unsuspecting fathers.) It's all about "checking boxes" and the
county 'may' put Lowell back in prison just on this fraud alone (if he
can't then cough up the one or two payments the 'computer' will
mysteriously keep him behind. Even if he pays, then poof! Again, a few
months later, lo! He's behind again.
This is not a guess...it happened to me, and it is happening to INNUMERABLE
fathers across the country. This is 'not' just a "California" problem.
Then there is the continued harrasment. "IF" he does not comply, he will
lose his license. Once he loses that, anf "IF" he gets pulled over without
it (or merely doesn't produce "valid ID" upon any officers request--then he
goes back to jail.
Again, this whole thing is complete slavery. The majority of men never get
through it. Many commit suicide because of the hopelessness...yet, the
courts, the DA and the whole system exactly knows what they are
doing. They will sadistically torture him until some disaster strikes.
This is how this whole situation got started in the first place! Lowell
begged the courts not to PAS him from his son, and they just scoffed at
him. Poof! Lowell (correctly) leaves with his son to another
(non-extradtion country). We should fight this case just to see how much
they spent on Lowell, and how they got a non-extradition country to
Methinks 'bribe' is the operative word here--and this begs the
question--how much money will they spend to hunt men back into slavery?
What has happened to Lowell should be protested by every human in
America. Fathers' should be visibly outraged at what occurred to Lowell,
and one thing is sure--we got to stop this madness.
These people who are doing this to this poor man, are our enemies.
This finally brings up the point, of how all men just simply accepting this
slavery--is giving them untold amounts of money and power. Men across
this nation MUST start refusing to pay child support. It is only a system
which invests in our destruction. All men in this nation are paying child
support so it can destroy both them, and their children.
We must recognize this fact, and refuse to pay child support.
Start destroying this evil system, stop paying child support.
Hope this helps.
At 10:38 AM 4/29/04, you wrote:
>Google search on Jaks sentence shows he got 365 days. In NJ, a similar
>case just resulted in 5 years - he's lucky. With good time, he should be
>out by August.
>April 18, 2004
>ANCPR's Lowell Jaks Pleads Guilty To Felony Child Stealing
>I heard from Elaine Jackson, Lowell Jaks's ex-wife. For those who haven't
>caught this story, Lowell Jaks is the head of the very popular and very
>nasty fathers' rights group, the Alliance for Non-Custodial Parents Rights
>(ANCPR). Jaks had kidnapped his son and spirited him away to the Dominican
>Republic. He has since been found by authorities and extradited to
>California. Mr. Jaks and his organization present themselves as being
>concerned only with helping fathers remain in their children's lives after
>divorce, but both are primarily concerned with finding ways to avoid child
>support obligations and lording it over their ex's, using the children as
>weapons. Kidnapping as an abusive act of retaliation isn't something good
>According to Ms. Jackson, "Lowell Jaks has pleaded guilty to felony child
>stealing on March 29 and will be sentenced on April 27. I have been
>informed that he will be sentenced to a fixed-term of 365 days in jail of
>which he will serve about 180 days, then he will be on 3 years
>probation. The upshot is that he will get to spend his time in county
>jail rather that going to state prison, which I assume had bearing on his
>guilty plea. I was hoping to work in a psych eval but apparently he's
>been too well behaved for them to think it warranted."
>Alec Jaks (the son) is doing much better now. He's getting caught up on
>missed schoolwork and adjusting to the entire situation. I'm very happy to
>Here are all of the links to my blog posts about Lowell Jaks, ANCPR, and
[Trish's note - links deleted. I'm going to create a new category for all of the Lowell Jaks posts in a few minutes.]
April 28, 2004
More Portrayal of Lowell Jaks As A "Victim"
William Wagener is the host of a cable public access show, an active member of the Libertarian Party of California, and a fathers' rights advocate. If Mr. Wagener is angry that California taxpayers will have to pony up $35,000 to provide Lowell Jaks with three hots and a cot, he should blame Jaks, not Jaks' ex-wife and "the system." Lowell Jaks and the supporters of his popular organization ANCPR have never been concerned with the proper parenting of children. Jaks brought on all of his problems himself. The whining displayed by Mr. Wagener is exactly what you will see when you refuse to coddle a fathers' rights advocates' overblown sense of entitlement. First, they sulk when they don't get their way. Then, they get ugly when they cannot bully others into giving them what they demand.
Oh, did I forget to mention that Mr. Wagener had a couple of additional wives that his legal wife was probably not very happy about? The web site for the 2002 Santa Barbara County Elections pointed out that "[h]is run for the Santa Maria City Council recently was thwarted, he said, by revelations of a nasty lawsuit in the early '90s. Court testimony indicated that Mr. Wagener had a legal wife at the time, and three others who signed "marriage contracts" drawn up by Mr. Wagener. He was sued by his second "wife" over the custody of their two sons." He blew it off, saying that he had "engaged in plural marriage years ago."
Kangaroo bones, wingnuts who dress up like Spider-Man and scale tall buildings, bigamy... I swear you can't make this stuff up.
This post originally appeared on a fathers' rights mailing list that will go unnamed.
April 19, 2004
Lowell Jaks's Original Plea - Innocent
This article at The Mercury News is available only by registration, which is why I'm including the portion about Lowell Jaks here in full. Jaks has since pleaded guilty.
A "parents' rights advocate"? Who do they think they're kidding?
No, he didn't. He founded it in 1997, mainly with hope of avoiding his child support obligation.
Fathers' Rights Party Line: What Lowell Jaks Did Was Wrong, But.. But... But...
Let the chest-thumping, backpedaling, side-stepping, and melodramatic torch-bearing begin. Fathers rights activists will do whatever they can to turn a criminal who had kidnapped his son into a Poster Boy and martyr for their movement.
Fathers rights activist John Murtari, who founded "A Kid's Right," was released from jail after his latest episode of stalking Senator Hillary Clinton long enough to release another mailing list action alert that included information for fathers' rightsters who want to write to Lowell Jaks in jail.
Get a load of this tripe. These people refuse to see that Jaks is not a "victim" of the system, or of his ex-wife, or of anyone else. He kidnapped his son as a power ploy against his ex-wife. This was not the act of a father who cares about his child's welfare. It was an abusive act of control and retaliation. It was also a retaliatory act to avoid paying child support. Fathers' rights activists who endorse the recommendations in the mailing list post below not only support what Jaks had done, they are willing to help him get away with it.
Here is the portion of the "A Kid's Right" mailing pertaining to Jaks:
"Aaron Burr" is Robert Cheney, an original signatory and founding member of Fathers' Manifesto. He is also a founding member and signatory of Fathers' Manifesto's DEMAND, which included these statements as its platform:
Fathers' Manifesto is also responsible for the anti-Semitic "Talmud Survey" hate site.
He was a member (the only one?) of The Sovereign Patriot Group, in California. That explains his internet alias. He sees himself as some sort of patriot. A hero. He is neither. He spent time in jail himself for willful refusal to pay child support. Father's rights activists had also organized letter-writing campaigns and protests when he was behind bars. He has also made some rather insidious, abusive, and manipulative suggestions regarding how men may get back at their ex-wives.
Please note that Murtari is back to stalking Senator Clinton. I'm sure he'll be back in jail again soon. Maybe he and Jaks can write to each other from behind bars.
For dads who supposedly want only to do right by their children, these guys sure spend a lot of time earning three hots and a cot. They also engage in hate speech and they incite aggressive behavior on their mailing lists. Neither Lowell Jaks nor his Internet fathers' rights group, The Alliance for Non-Custodial Parents Rights (ANCPR) is concerned with the welfare of children or with helping fathers become better parents. None of these activities is in the best interests of anyone, let alone children.
April 18, 2004
ANCPR's Lowell Jaks Pleads Guilty To Felony Child Stealing
I heard from Elaine Jackson, Lowell Jaks's ex-wife. For those who haven't caught this story, Lowell Jaks is the head of the very popular and very nasty fathers' rights group, the Alliance for Non-Custodial Parents Rights (ANCPR). Jaks had kidnapped his son and spirited him away to the Dominican Republic. He has since been found by authorities and extradicted to California. Mr. Jaks and his organization present themselves as being concerned only with helping fathers remain in their children's lives after divorce, but both are primarily concerned with finding ways to avoid child support obligations and lording it over their ex's, using the children as weapons. Kidnapping as an abusive act of retaliation isn't something good fathers do.
According to Ms. Jackson, "Lowell Jaks has pleaded guilty to felony child stealing on March 29 and will be sentenced on April 27. I have been informed that he will be sentenced to a fixed-term of 365 days in jail of which he will serve about 180 days, then he will be on 3 years probation. The upshot is that he will get to spend his time in county jail rather that going to state prison, which I assume had bearing on his guilty plea. I was hoping to work in a psych eval but apparently he’s been too well behaved for them to think it warranted."
Alec Jaks (the son) is doing much better now. He's getting caught up on missed schoolwork and adjusting to the entire situation. I'm very happy to hear that.
Here are all of the links to my blog posts about Lowell Jaks, ANCPR, and the kidnapping:
Trish Wilson's Blog: Lowell Jaks Update - includes Polly Klaas Foundation link and a link to Lowell Jaks's psychic web page. (Yes, you read that right.)