March 24, 2011

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December 02, 2010

Do As I Demand Or The Kids Die!

This post is a riff of two earlier posts I wrote, Do As We Demand Or The Bitch Dies - Part 1 and Do As We Demand Or The Bitch Dies - Part 2. Over the past couple of years there has been a rash of dads murdering their exes and children (as reported on Dastardly Dads).

The latest case making the news is giving feelings of doom for three missing children that I and other people I've talked to suspect with a sinking feeling are already dead. We now have the case of John Skelton a dad who supposedly sent his three young sons off with a woman (who likely doesn't exist) and then attempted suicide. Mom, Tanya Skelton, is obviously beside herself since her sons have been missing since Thanksgiving. Skelton had court-ordered visitation, something that shouldn't be allowed in cases with a history like this one. This isn't the first time John Skelton ran off with his boys. The day Tanya Skelton filed for divorce, John Skelton took two of the boys and spirited them to Florida. After this stunt, Tanya Skelton was awarded custody but later she and Skelton agreed to visitation with a judge's encouragement.

This story is bad enough, but the rats are coming out of the woodwork latching onto this case to promote their propaganda and to advertise their "services". More below the fold.

In 2009, we had fathers' rights advocate Jeffrey Leving pontificating about how families need supervised visitation centers to help both parents have continuing access to their children. The father's rights group The Children's Rights Council also got in on the gravy train. Lo and behold - CRC has visitation centers! Can you hear the money? The articles below are bald ploys to attract more attention - and more clients and money - for CRC's visitation centers and for Jeffery Leving. Oh, yeah, visitation centers work well. Pay the father's rights group fees for supervised visitation for fifteen years. Teenagers especially love to be in a room with toys for three hours.

Here's the piggyback-onto-a-tragedy article by an Ohio chapter of the father's rights group The Children's Rights Council. CRC is not a child welfare group. It is a male supremacy group that has made lots of money over the years from supervised visitation centers. No link. Not giving this garbage traffic.

So what's the implication here? To keep children "safe", or to give abusive dads their access regardless of how little that benefits the children? Child welfare is given lip service in this article. It's all about father supremacy and getting more clients and money for CRC visitation centers.

And national leader? Of a tiny chapter in Ohio? Oh, please...

Amid Morenci search, expert advises on custody disputes

Posted: Dec 01, 2010 4:06 AM EST
Updated: Dec 01, 2010 4:10 AM EST

By Jonathan Walsh
Posted by Lisa Strawbridge

TOLEDO, OH (WTOL) - The Children's Rights Council provides a safe place for
parental visitation when custody becomes an issue during or after divorce.

Margaret Wuwert is the national leader for the chapter in northwest Ohio. She
says she's very saddened about the case involving John Skelton and his three
sons.

"We want to make sure the kids are safe and that they do get to see both
parents," Wuwert said of her organization.

The purpose of the council is to provide divorced parents or single parents with
a safe way to have visits with children.

A room is provided for the custodial parent to drop off their children. Then 15
minutes later, the other parent comes in to spend time with the kids. She says
there are no confrontations among the parents, and the kids just play and enjoy
their time with mom or dad.

She says 90 or 95 percent of parents using the program think it's a good thing.

She adds there are so many emotions involved in a divorce. Then economic stress
and even the arrival of the holidays can add to those emotions. Wuwert suggests
parents always think of the kids first.

The Children's Rights Council of Northwest Ohio has 20 rooms available. It
serves 80 families a month with each session lasting three hours.

As sad and difficult as the Skelton story is to hear, Wuwert hopes it's at least
a wake-up call for adults who may be feeling some of the same emotions involved
with the Skelton case.

I won't give a link to this article below by Jeffery Leving because I don't want to give it traffic, but here it is in full. It's pretty heinous, piggybacking on a tragedy of children who have been murdered - at the hands of their father. He blames these deaths on alleged bias against fathers in divorce and custody cases, and does not hold these men responsible in any way for the murders they commit.

When Divorce Kills: How Gender Bias Pushes Some Men Over the Edge
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
By Jeffery M. Leving

Chicago, IL – (April 9, 2009) – In the past two weeks, the nation has been shocked by three cases of domestic violence ending in the deaths of innocent children. Two weeks ago, two Illinois boys and their father, Michael Connolly, were found dead in an apparent case of murder-suicide. Last week, James Harrison, a father in Washington, allegedly shot to death his five children before killing himself. On Monday, an Alabama man, Kevin Garner, allegedly killed his estranged wife, their daughter and two other relatives before committing suicide. A common factor in these three cases is divorce: a father in distress probably because he was losing all that he held dear.

I lament these terrible tragedies; as a parent myself, I can imagine the agony the death of a child must bring to a family. As a fathers’ rights attorney, I regret that these high-profile cases are reinforcing the malicious stereotype of the brutal father, a stereotype that sabotages the efforts of many good fathers who love their children.

The fact is that most fathers do not harm their children. Domestic violence is not gender specific, as some mothers have also committed similar unnatural acts. For example, I am currently representing a soldier, formerly deployed in Iraq, who is now struggling to rescue his daughter from the alleged abuse of her mother in Chicago.

Divorce is often regarded as one of the most stressful events in an adult’s life. However, it is especially painful for men in our society due to blatant gender bias in our system. Most divorced men lose custody of their children, and have to pay substantial and sometimes onerous child support. This bias is evident when examining the raw numbers of custody rulings from jurisdictions across the United States. Mothers win 85 percent of all such disputes. According to the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, divorced and separated men are two and a half times more likely to commit suicide than married men. By contrast, the incidence of suicide among divorced women is no greater than that for married women.

The notion that divorced or otherwise estranged fathers don’t want or need continuing involvement with their children is insensitive and false. Fathers suffer very real pain and an overpowering sense of loss when excluded from their children’s lives. In my book “Fathers’ Rights,” I warned of the agony suffered by fathers affected by the gender bias, pointing out that “fathers from all walks of life find separation from their children to be a torturous, devastating experience.”

While most divorced men are able to cope with the unfair treatment by our system, some individuals collapse under the pressure of their emotions, destroying their family and themselves. Sometimes all these fathers need is someone who understands; someone to share their problems with. This and more can be provided by the not-for-profit organization which I founded in Illinois, the Fatherhood Educational Institute (URL deleted - I won't give traffic to these guys), as well as the government agency that I chair, The Illinois Council for Responsible Fatherhood (URL deleted). Similar organizations are needed everywhere. Both organizations offer resources to educate fathers to deal with their emotions, and to assist them in times of crisis.

The stress of divorce is well-known. However, it is manageable and should not lead to killings. Instead of focusing on those three men who allegedly committed unforgivable crimes, we should look at our society and our attitudes towards the role of fathers after separation and divorce and correct these unhealthy stereotypes.

Leving's brand of giving access to even violent fathers because it's society and its horrid attitudes about fathers that causes these tragedies is nothing new. Want to see some comments from father's rights activists about dads murdering their children and exes? These are some pretty noxious comments that give you an idea of the real nature of the father's rights movement, and it's not concern with children's welfare. It's all about male supremacy. Well, here you go:

From my article, Do As We Demand Or The Bitch Dies - Part 1:

Some of you may have heard the story about a fathers' rights advocate Darren Mack, who had stabbed his wife to death and shot the judge who heard his case. The judge lived. This guy is now at large. Well, fathers' rights groups got wind of the story, and they are excusing this guy's behavior. They blame "the system" for what this guy has done.

This is nothing new for these guys. They already blame "the system", feminists, and ex-wives when dads commit suicide. What they usually keep quiet is that they also blame "the system" et al when dads murder their wives and children. Lowell Jaks of The Alliance for Non-Custodial Parent's Rights had gone as far as to blame "the system" for the D. C. sniper shootings. In the article Divorced Dads Snap Under Pressure, which is available at ANCPR's web site, Jaks said that "[s]ome guys kill themselves, some snap and go out and kill others. You can dismiss them as crackpots, you can say we need more protection for women, but it's not going to take away the problem." In another article, available at the web site for the fathers' rights group "A Kid's Right", Jaks said ""None of these guys are poster children. But when you cause this much pain to so many men, there are going to be repercussions. A certain percentage are going to crack."

Quotes from father's rights activists from the same article, referencing Darren Mack murdering his ex-wife and shooting the judge who heard his case. Mack got lots of sympathy from father's rights activists. No surprise there. Would you as a mom (or dad) want to give these guys access to your children? Hell, no!

Jim Deeny said,
on June 13th, 2006 at 1:49 pm

There’s only one wat to stop this nonsense! Stop paying!

mikevac said,
on June 13th, 2006 at 4:56 pm

The harder the courts pushes people the harder they will push back. This bastard judge lived - this time. Next time he will not be that lucky. And there will be a next time because he is a bigot. Eventually, he’ll push another person to the brink and they will kill him. Unfortunately, this is the only way a victim of this the family court can get justice - by killing the judge.

anothervoice said,
on June 13th, 2006 at 5:31 pm

This judge all like him get absolutely no sympathy from me. Here’s a solution: Have judges in family court (now there’s a contradiction in terms) only limited to five year terms and and for every complaint against them such as violating someone’s due process because it helps the custodial parent then they aren’t allowed to work for a year; hey, better yet, sned the jackass/bitch to jail for three months for each and every violation accrued to be run consequetively. Then maybe they won’t be so eagar to assholes.

buddyhyatt said,
on June 13th, 2006 at 7:00 pm

I do not condone this type of retaliation. However “you reap what you sow” and evidently this judge had it coming. I am in this very situation in Tennessee. I am paying $1005 per month to the child’s mother whom I was not married to, while she does not work but fishes and hunts 10 to 18 days per month. (Yes she’s a lesbian now.) All the while I have the child more than half the time??? I am being rail roaded as we speak. I will fight it tooth and nail until it is settled fairly. I will not however shoot the judge. God’s vengeance will be much worse than anything I could do.

Jeffrey Leving and his ilk don't care about child welfare, "equality", or giving dads a fair shake. They care only about making sure men, especially the mad dads of the father's rights movement, have the ability to lord it over the women who try to leave them. They use the children to get back at the women who have the audacity to leave them. Remember that a Florida Bar Journal article noted that abusive fathers are much more likely than nonabusive parents contest custody, not pay child support, and kidnap children. You can add killing exes and children to that list. Comments such as the above prove those facts.

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January 29, 2008

Don't Forget - Dean Tong Excused Murderer Darren Macks' Shootings

This is a reprint of a post I wrote about Dean Tong when Darren Mack made the news due to murdering his wife and shooting the judge that heard his case. Tong is now in jail, charged with wife beating and trying to evade prosecution. The original link is here.

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My readers may recall that I have already posted about Dean Tong's comments excusing what Darren Mack had done. Mack had hired Tong as his forensic consultant. Now, Tong has an editorial published in the Reno Review Journal. He's engaging in more damage control, a la Glenn Sacks and Wendy McElroy, but he falls flat on his face.

Note how Tong blames "the system" for Mack, who he said "was cracking".

What happened to Darren Mack between then and June 12, when, according to police, he stabbed Charla Mack to death and shot Family Court Judge Chuck Weller with a high-powered rifle? Hindsight is 20/20, but my opinion is that this "family man turned hit man" was cracking under the strain of trying to hold onto his business, his assets and his daughter while navigating a misguided Family Court system that only poured gasoline on an already incendiary situation.

Tong also sought to place blame on Charla Mack, whom Mack had stabbed to death.

He claimed his wife and her very aggressive and competent attorney were drumming up a story to gain the upper hand in their demands for custody and assets. To wit: If she was so scared of him, why did she drive to his townhome the morning of June 12 without an adult witness by her side?

That's right. Blame a dead woman for her own murder.

I'm not surprised that Dean Tong would create excuses for what Darren Mack had done. Lots of father's rights activists are taking the "the system is to blame!" approach. Let them. It makes them look like they are making excuses for Mack's murder, shooting, and flight, which is exactly what they are doing. Tong had written that Mack "was cracking", as if his contentious divorce was to blame for him stabbing his wife to death and shooting Judge Weller.

Tong represents men who claim they have been falsely accused of abuse. That's how he makes his money. He has no training to do what he does. He is trained as an Emergency Medical Technician. As I had written in my earlier post about Tong, the test that Tong uses is the penile plethysmograph test, which is unreliable in ascertaining child sexual abuse. This test measures male sexual arousal. This test has many problems, including that it is not admitted in court under Daubert, which means that the test is scientifically unreliable. The test is "subject to fakery and voluntary control by test subjects..."

Here is one of Tong's recommendations in his op-ed for divorces to supposedly prevent contention:

Joint custody should be the preferred option. Even though the rule of law is "the child's best interests," too often it is interpreted as, "the father should get the shaft and the mom should get everything."

Tong neglected to point out that Charla and Darren Mack had joint custody. It obviously did not inspire them to get along for the sake of their children. Joint custody did not prevent Darren Mack from "cracking". It's so nice of him to write the inflammatory statement "the father should get the shaft and the mom should get everything." That makes him look petty and vindictive - not the way you want to look when talking about a man who had stabbed his wife to death, shot the judge who was hearing his case, and then fled to Mexico.

Dean Tong is a favorite amongst father' rights activists and "false allegations" supporters. He, like most of the fathers' rights activists who have written about the Mack case, continues to blame "the system" for a murder and a shooting. What Dean Tong is doing is damage control. Fathers' rights activists have made their opinions clear on message boards where they have supported Mack shooting Judge Weller. They also blame "the system" for Mack's downfall. Fathers' rights activists do not represent good men. Good, decent men who are going through divorce should not look to those groups or the individuals in them for help.

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July 05, 2006

Op-Ed On The Darren Mack Case

One of my commenters, Silverside, had an op-ed published in the Jamestown (NY) Post-Journal.

Here it is, for everyone to read.

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Murderous Dads Don’t Deserve “Rights”

If you follow the newspapers or television, you’ve probably heard of Darren Mack, a Nevada pawnshop owner who allegedly stabbed and murdered his estranged wife, Charla Mack. Mrs. Mack was found in a pool of blood on the floor of their townhouse garage while their eight-year-old daughter was upstairs. Then Mr. Mack apparently decided to take out his displeasure on Washoe District Family Court Judge Chuck Weller, who was handling the Macks’ divorce. While Judge Weller was standing near his third-floor office window, he was shot in the chest by a sniper who fired from a parking garage more than three football fields away. A woman staff member was also injured. Fortunately, Judge Weller and the staff person are recovering. Recently, Mr. Mack surrendered to authorities in Mexico, and will face criminal charges. That Mr. Mack’s bedroom apparently contained bomb-making materials will probably add to his legal troubles.

The reaction has been swift—but sometimes in ways that are more revealing than not. New calls have been made to improve court security—certainly a worthy goal. However, there has been little dialogue on the need to improve security for battered women and their children, the true victims here. In this case, the true victims include a mother who tried to warn her friends of her husband’s potential violence, but to no avail. The true victims include a daughter who will grow up with nightmares about what transpired right below her feet, and with no mother to comfort her. Unfortunately, these simple facts are being lost.

In fact, in a bizarre twist, Mr. Mack and his allies in “Nevadans for Equal Parenting” and other Fathers Rights groups are now claiming “victim” status. They whine that they are the “victims” of “unfair” judges who won’t cave into their demands regarding custody and child support (in reality, Mr. Mack had custody of his two children from his first marriage, despite his history of abuse, and joint custody of his daughter). Mr. Mack is miles from being a “victim.” But like many domestic abusers, many of whom are flocking to the Fathers Rights movement, he styles himself a “victim.” That murdered and injured people and their loved ones are the actual victims doesn’t even seem to register on their puny moral radar screens.

All of that would be self-evident to any reasonable and decent person. Nevertheless, the internet is afloat in Fathers Rights bloggers who are busy blaming Judge Weller for “bringing it on himself” and Mrs. Weller for “deserving what she got.”

Well, you might think. That’s out west. Land of all those survivalists and other wacko cults. Plus, we’re talking about wingnuts who live by their computer screens. What’s that got to do with us?

Unfortunately, it’s not just the wingnuts out west. It’s also the leaders of Fathers Rights. And right here in New York State.

According to the Albany Times Union, Randy Dickinson, vice president of the Coalition of Fathers and Families New York, sent an e-mail to New York State legislators earlier this month which included a news clipping regarding the shooting of Judge Weller. Dickinson also attached a quote from John F. Kennedy: "Those who make peaceful revolution impossible will make violent revolution inevitable."

A staff member from Sheldon Silver’s office contacted the State Police.

According to the Times Union, “Dickinson said he was just trying to make a point the group has communicated in the past to legislative leaders, that ‘they cannot continue to ignore our issues and refuse to provide any relief or accommodation, without encouraging violence from those more inclined to express their frustration and anger in that manner.’”

Um, does that sound like a threat to you? Like one of those good cop/bad cop shticks? “I don’t want to kneecap ya, see. But my buddy Rocky here is getting kind of itchy. So ya better deliver the goods, capiche?”

And how does Mr. Dickinson defend his crass appropriation of John F. Kennedy’s words? The quote, he said, "was meant to emphasize that one of their own heroes and an icon of the Democratic Party warned them that the lid cannot be kept on people's passions forever, without expecting trouble."

Let me tell you what I think. Let’s put the lid on Mr. Dickinson and all the others who justify terrorist tactics and threats. There is no right to murder or violence, whether you’re a dad or not. And frankly, I think Mr. Dickinson and his ilk are an insult to all the good dads who aren’t abusers or criminals.

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June 30, 2006

More Fathers' Rights Backpedaling - From Dean Tong

Update January 29, 2008: Dean Tong has been arrested and charged with wife beating and witness tampering. Please see my new Dean Tong category to get the latest information.

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My readers may recall that I have already posted about Dean Tong's comments excusing what Darren Mack had done. Mack had hired Tong as his forensic consultant. Now, Tong has an editorial published in the Reno Review Journal. He's engaging in more damage control, a la Glenn Sacks and Wendy McElroy, but he falls flat on his face.

Note how Tong blames "the system" for Mack, who he said "was cracking".

What happened to Darren Mack between then and June 12, when, according to police, he stabbed Charla Mack to death and shot Family Court Judge Chuck Weller with a high-powered rifle? Hindsight is 20/20, but my opinion is that this "family man turned hit man" was cracking under the strain of trying to hold onto his business, his assets and his daughter while navigating a misguided Family Court system that only poured gasoline on an already incendiary situation.

Tong also sought to place blame on Charla Mack, whom Mack had stabbed to death.

He claimed his wife and her very aggressive and competent attorney were drumming up a story to gain the upper hand in their demands for custody and assets. To wit: If she was so scared of him, why did she drive to his townhome the morning of June 12 without an adult witness by her side?

That's right. Blame a dead woman for her own murder.

I'm not surprised that Dean Tong would create excuses for what Darren Mack had done. Lots of father's rights activists are taking the "the system is to blame!" approach. Let them. It makes them look like they are making excuses for Mack's murder, shooting, and flight, which is exactly what they are doing. Tong had written that Mack "was cracking", as if his contentious divorce was to blame for him stabbing his wife to death and shooting Judge Weller.

Tong represents men who claim they have been falsely accused of abuse. That's how he makes his money. He has no training to do what he does. He is trained as an Emergency Medical Technician. As I had written in my earlier post about Tong, the test that Tong uses is the penile plethysmograph test, which is unreliable in ascertaining child sexual abuse. This test measures male sexual arousal. This test has many problems, including that it is not admitted in court under Daubert, which means that the test is scientifically unreliable. The test is "subject to fakery and voluntary control by test subjects..."

Here is one of Tong's recommendations in his op-ed for divorces to supposedly prevent contention:

Joint custody should be the preferred option. Even though the rule of law is "the child's best interests," too often it is interpreted as, "the father should get the shaft and the mom should get everything."

Tong neglected to point out that Charla and Darren Mack had joint custody. It obviously did not inspire them to get along for the sake of their children. Joint custody did not prevent Darren Mack from "cracking". It's so nice of him to write the inflammatory statement "the father should get the shaft and the mom should get everything." That makes him look petty and vindictive - not the way you want to look when talking about a man who had stabbed his wife to death, shot the judge who was hearing his case, and then fled to Mexico.

Dean Tong is a favorite amongst father' rights activists and "false allegations" supporters. He, like most of the fathers' rights activists who have written about the Mack case, continues to blame "the system" for a murder and a shooting. What Dean Tong is doing is damage control. Fathers' rights activists have made their opinions clear on message boards where they have supported Mack shooting Judge Weller. They also blame "the system" for Mack's downfall. Fathers' rights activists do not represent good men. Good, decent men who are going through divorce should not look to those groups or the individuals in them for help.

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I've Had An Op-Ed Published At Reno Discontent

My op-ed about fathers' rights ugly support of Darren Mack has been published at Reno Discontent. It's about time the truth about the ugly nature of fathers' rights activists gets out for the public to see.

I've sent the same op-ed to other newspapers. If it's printed, I'll let everyone know.

Update: This is the op-ed that was published.

Father’s Rights Groups Let Their True Colors Show
by Trish Wilson

Darren Mack, a wealthy resident of Reno, Nevada, stabbed his wife to death and shot the judge hearing his divorce case. This case has been the talk of fathers’ rights forums. Fathers’ rights groups state that they are only concerned with helping dads see their children. Their comments on Internet forums have shown the public the truth - that these men blame the court system for when angry men harass, attack, and murder. These men also blame feminism and ex-wives for supposedly setting up a system that discriminates against men.

Fathers’ rights activists lobby for presumptive joint custody (a. k. a. shared parenting). They also seek to reduce protections for battered women. They want laws that would lower their child support obligations. They claim that courts discriminate against fathers. The court system may discriminate in isolated cases against men, but overall it does not. Most divorcing couples settle their cases without needing a judge to make their decisions for them. These couples agree that the mother should have sole custody of the children because they recognize that she had been the primary caregiver of the children from the beginning. In the cases where fathers make an issue of custody, they get some form of it more than half the time. Most of the time they get joint legal custody, but there are more cases today where fathers are able to get joint physical custody. These contested cases make only about 10% of all divorces, but they include "problem" cases like domestic violence and child abuse, power and control issues, personality disorders, mental problems, and alcohol and drug abuse. This minority is not representative of most divorces.

Fathers rights activists have supported and excused what Darren Mack had done. The message they are sending is that if their demands are not met, there will be more violent episodes. These statements from Internet forums need to be shown so that the public knows that fathers’ rights activists are not concerned with children or with fair outcomes in divorce.

Randy Dickinson is vice-president of the Coalition of Fathers and Families in New York. This group supports a presumption for joint physical custody, a. k. a. shared parenting. A recent shared parenting bill had died in committee, much to the consternation of fathers’ rights activists. Dickinson had written a letter to legislators about fathers’ rights. He included an Associated Press story about the Mack shooting. In his letter, he quoted John F. Kennedy, saying that, "Those who make peaceful revolution impossible will make violent revolution inevitable." Assembly Speaker Sheldon Silver took this as a threat, and the State Police were called. Dickinson tried to excuse what he had done, but he spoke another threat. He said "they cannot continue to ignore our issues and refuse to provide any relief or accommodation, without encouraging violence from those more inclined to express their frustration and anger in that manner." The quote, he said, "was meant to emphasize that one of their own heroes and an icon of the Democratic Party warned them that the lid cannot be kept on people’s passions forever, without expecting trouble."

The messaqe is loud and clear - do what we demand or face the consequences.

The following message, from Nevada Parent, who is a leader of a Nevada fathers’ rights group, wrote "The NEW TERRORISM! Judge Chuck Weller of Washoe County Family Court has people (both men & women) running from his courtroom in TERROR. He threatens to take your children, your freedom, your property! Weller uses whatever tactics to force you to submit to his imperial demands and tyrannical orders. Every story from each person that I have talked to in my investigation has similar experience. They are terrorized and don’t understand why he is being so aggressive when they’ve done nothing wrong. Does Weller ever rule on the law or does he just rule on his whims? Contact Nevadans for Equal Parenting by clicking the link or by email to begin a dialog in Washoe County […]"

Angry men are also posting at the fathers’ rights Usenet group alt.child-support. One had commented that "[y]ou start persecuting men, you’re only asking for trouble. Maybe all these CS agency workers should start wearing bullet proof vests to work?" Another had written, "Why? Headshots are harder. Much more satisfying I’ll grant you, but much, much harder to get on a first shot." A third commenter had written, "My guess is that for every one that actually goes through with a shooting, there are many thousands who have considered it, and probably quite a few who actually locked & loaded only to back down at the last moment. Makes you wonder how many of these maggots wearing the black robe have come about as close to death as one can get and haven’t a clue."

Men at the fathers’ rights forum Stand Your Ground had also written in support of Mack, saying that when fathers’ rights demands aren’t met that the public should expect such violent reactions. One of the most unsettling comments applauded Mack’s actions. The commenter wrote "I applaud these kinds of actions. Men and Fathers are at war with their respective governments. If the "enemy" is to sit up and take notice, there must be casualties. Very few of the enemy have suffered casualties; most deaths on our side have been in their jails, or through suicide from those that have surrendered. Those that experience collatoral damage end up homeless and/or in Rescue Missions. I’ve thought of the violence angle; violent fathers and such and I don’t believe that applies in judge shootings. These incidents make it more expensive for these black robed thugs to operate their fiefdoms. Now they have to buy bullet proof glass. Darren Mack, if you are the shooter, I salute you. Any law enforcement officials reading this; while I support these actions against black robed thugs and jack-booted cops, I don’t encourage any father/husband to waste their own life in this fashion. I would be proud if you were to add my name to any "Patriot" database maintained by your department." Another commenter sought to blame feminism for the shooting. He wrote, "Repeating my favorite mantra here: "…Feminism made this happen. Feminism made this happen. Feminism made this happen. Feminism made this happen. Feminism made….." But repeating the mantra isn’t enough. In all such cases, one must ascertain exactly HOW feminism made X happen, so that it can be made known to the rest of the world at the same time that you are chanting the mantra. As it is written:"By their fruits ye shall know them." We must be able to identify the Fruits of Feminism, and say exactly WHY they are the Fruits of Feminism, and…establish the linkage in the public mind — clearly and distinctly. And not just the DNA continuity of the ideological fabric, but the actual causitive nexus — the actual agents and operators. For example, the situation we are discussing here (apparently) grows straight out of the Bradley Amendment of 1986, which was a direct outcome of efforts made by people clearly identifiable as feminist ….wasn’t it? Thus, the Bradley Amendment, and the Reno courthouse situation, are both clearly identifiable as the Fruits of Feminism….aren’t they? I think that we must train ourselves to think this way."

The Alliance For Non-Custodial Parents blog also included supportive statements. ANCPR was founded by Lowell Jaks, who spent time in jail for kidnapping his son. ANCPR included a statement demanding shared parenting and no child support to prevent such actions from happening in the future. The following message was posted at ANCPR:

"Extreme prejudice against the spouse or parent who earns the most income may well be the common factor in this shooting in Reno Today. We talked to members of the same Fathers Rights group of Reno, which Darren Mack belonged to, and they all agreed, that this kind of violence would NOT happen, ifSˇ IFSˇ

1. Judges gave Both parents equal time with their children,

2. No involuntary child support was ordered, because each
parent would ∏support∑ the child when they had the child."

Here is a small sampling of the comments that were left on the ANCPR blog by fathers’ rights activists:

The fact that judges have immunity from prosecution is criminal and a complete farce.
These scumbag judges act under the color of law knowingly violating the Constitutional rights of the litigants. Only when someone becomes completely despondent that they take the law into their own hands and serve justice on their tormenters.

There∂s only one wat to stop this nonsense! Stop paying!

The harder the courts pushes people the harder they will push back. This bastard judge lived - this time. Next time he will not be that lucky. And there will be a next time because he is a bigot. Eventually, he∂ll push another person to the brink and they will kill him. Unfortunately, this is the only way a victim of this the family court can get justice - by killing the judge.

This judge all like him get absolutely no sympathy from me. Here∂s a solution: Have judges in family court (now there∂s a contradiction in terms) only limited to five year terms and and for every complaint against them such as violating someone∂s due process because it helps the custodial parent then they aren∂t allowed to work for a year; hey, better yet, sned the jackass/bitch to jail for three months for each and every violation accrued to be run consequetively. Then maybe they won∂t be so eagar to assholes.

I do not condone this type of retaliation. However ∏you reap what you sow∑ and evidently this judge had it coming. I am in this very situation in Tennessee. I am paying $1005 per month to the child∂s mother whom I was not married to, while she does not work but fishes and hunts 10 to 18 days per month. (Yes she∂s a lesbian now.) All the while I have the child more than half the time??? I am being rail roaded as we speak. I will fight it tooth and nail until it is settled fairly. I will not however shoot the judge. God∂s vengeance will be much worse than anything I could do.

Of course it∂s not justifiable. I don∂t think it∂s absolution WarriorPoet, but rather it∂s ∏I told you do∑ Or ∏it∂s been in the making∑. People have been telling people that this type of thing is going to happen. Men have snapped over the system and have lossed everything and have gone to extreme ways of veangance.

Judges and attorneys should take note and watch their backSˇThis is only the beginningSˇIt takes this kind of extreme to deal with another extremeSˇAnd for those dirty judges and cock roach vampire attorneys who look upon men/fathers as only a paycheck, not people with ∏rights∑ hahaha/just mention rights and the law in a court and see how fast you are told to pay moreSˇ You assholes (and you KNOW who you are) that make up the law as you see fit, this could just be your future coming to a place near you soonSˇvery soonSˇ and more oftenSˇ.

The real glitch is that justices will hand out even more PFA∂s like candy now. Soon to be ex husbands will be considered armed and dangerous. Incidents like this can and might have an adverse affect on allot of us men out here.

The public needs to know how harmful fathers’ rights activists really are. These men are not concerned with the welfare of children. They are angry and vindictive. They recommend that domestic violence protections be gutted with claims that women frequently fabricate false allegations of domestic violence and child abuse. Bona fide false allegations are rare; no more common in the context a divorce or custody case than they are in the general population. Fathers’ rights activists also promulgate the myth that men and women are equally abusive. The vast majority of victims of domestic violence are women. Fathers’ rights activists seek to get out of paying child support, which they claim is too high. In fact, on average, fathers contribute only 19% of their incomes to their children’s households. It should be made clear to reasonable people that anyone who supports what Darren Mack had done does not have the best interests of children in mind. Fathers who need help in their divorces and custody cases should steer clear of fathers’ rights groups. Those groups only incite anger. Good fathers deserve better than that.

Posted on June 30, 2006 at 11:33 AM | Permalink | Comments (30)

June 29, 2006

Father's Rights Activists And Darren Mack - Let The Backpedaling Begin

I'm not surprised that since Wendy McElroy has engaged in damage control over what she likely knows are supportive comments regarding Darren Mack made by fathers' rights activists, that those activists are now backpedaling like crazy. Her article is here: http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,201251,00.html

Glenn Sacks also engaged in damage control. He mentioned the "not insubstanial lunatic fringe" to explain away those comments. In one of his newsletters, he wrote: "Darren Mack was angered by his divorce and custody case. Some on the not insubstantial lunatic fringe of the fathers' rights movement see Mack as some sort of freedom fighter. Most of the commentary by other fathers' rights advocates seem to be of the "he couldn't take it any more and snapped" variety." As I said in a previous post, Sacks had admitted there that there is a substantial number of fathers' rights activists who act in such a heinous manner. He tried to downplay that fact by calling them "not insubstantial." That means substantial.

These guys are not the lunatic fringe. They are the fathers' rights movement. They are the mainstream and most active and vocal members of the movement. Now, the public is getting a heavy dose of how angry and antagonistic the people in that movement can be.

I have already seen evidence of fathers' rights activists backpedaling on what their own kind have said in supporting Mack. Two of the guys from Stand Your Ground continue to post in my comments, saying they don't condone what Mack had done, yet they continue making excuses for Mack and blaming his ex-wife for her own murder. There are also other comments defending Mack in my comments, but I suspect that those are more trolls. I know that my blog has been targeted for trolling. It doesn't really matter that those people may be trolls. Their comments are heinous. They are defending Mack and blaming his ex-wife for Mack's rage.

I am not fooled.

Fathers' rights activists are on the record with their supportive statements. Some of them endorsed shooting Judge Weller. They can't backpedal on their previous comments just because Wendy McElroy and Glenn Sacks are doing damage control. Oh, I'm sure some will come here and will post elsewhere saying that those horrid people do not represent the fathers' rights movement. Some organizations and individuals will appear out of the woodwork to say that they don't condone what Mack had done. Some of them may make caveats saying that they understand what he did, because they believe "the system" works against fathers. That's just an excuse. They will try to distance themselves from the people and groups that made those comments, calling them the "lunatic fringe". Of course the people who made those comments represent the fathers' rights movement. They are at the heart of the fathers' rights movement. They are not fringe.

This whole business reminds me of when Fathers' Manifesto first went public about a decade ago. Father's Manifesto is a misogynistic web site that sought to repeal women's right to vote. It attacked feminism. It attacked women. It created the first "fatherlessness" statistics that denigrated single and divorced mother homes. It demanded sole father custody with no exceptions. It sought to end child support, alimony, and all transfer of assets to ex-wives. Fathers' rights activists had blasted John Knight, the founder of Father's Manifesto, on Usenet. However, backchannel they endorsed his Manifesto and participated in his mailing list. They wrote letters to him in support of his Manifesto. What they didn't expect was for John Knight to take all of that private backchannel information and e-mails, and to post them very publicly on an extensive web site. When that happened, fathers' rights activists were outed. They backpedaled like crazy. They insisted the never e-mailed John Knight. They insisted they never endorsed Fathers' Manifesto, even though their full names, organizations, addresses, and other information were included on the Manifesto web site. They claimed that John Knight had added their names without their permission. They demanded to be removed from the Manifesto signatory list.

I called bullshit then, and I call bullshit now.

They couldn't hide their involvement with Fathers' Manifesto. They were outed. In a similar manner, fathers' rights activists are now outed with their supportive comments about Darren Mack. They can't backpedal. They can't engage in damage control. They are on the record with their ugly and hostile comments. Fathers' rights activists in Internet forums have blamed "the system" for what Darren Mack had done. They can't dance around that fact.

Posted on June 29, 2006 at 04:55 PM | Permalink | Comments (19)

June 27, 2006

Darren Mack May Have Commented On My Blog

Update: You know what is really freaky about this? I wife-killer may have been reading my blog. Ick, ick, ick.

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I found this at Legal Reader. It looks like Darren Mack may have posted at that site as well as my blog. Here's the message from Legal Reader:

Yesterday morning I was contacted by a homicide detective from the Reno Police Department, and shortly thereafter by a Special Agent of the FBI's Reno office. They both thought that Mack might have been posting comments to this website, and that he might be continuing to monitor the comments on this site.

They identified two comments that they thought Mack might have left (see below), which were both posted by someone using the name "Mark". I determined that these two comments were posted from the IP address 201.121.174.67. That IP address is assigned to the "Latin American and Caribbean IP address Regional Registry" -- which includes Mexico.

In one of the comments, the author starts off refferring to Mack in the third-person, as "Darren" or "he", and claims to have detailed financial information that he had seen from "bank records" that Mack had shown him. But at one point, the author slips into the first-person, writing: "Can't tell the bank [that Judge] Weller said I don't have to pay [interest due to the bank]." Hmmmm . . . .

I showed the Special Agent and the Detective how they could monitor who was currently accessing my website using SiteMeter, which they presumably did from then on.

Were those comments actually posted by Darren Mack? I may never know, but it looks pretty likely to me. Because Mack ultimately turned himself in, I don't think his postings to my website contributed to his apprehension. But they potentially could have . . . .

Here are the two messages "Mark" posted at Legal Reader:

Here is the real numbers as was given to me in documents by Darren himself. Don´t let the fancy BS done by the attorneys fool you in the court motions. Remember most if not all has been falsely documented. I saw the real financial and bank records myself.

The order said¨.

44,000 income
15,000 income taxes that no-one remembered that had to be taken out. Remember income taxes?
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29,000 left after taxes
10,000 spousal support as per Weller´s order
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19,000 left after spousal support
14,000 all those items that were listed on the order by Weller but not put into dollars. Just the 2 morgages were 9,000 a month. I have seen the bank records.
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5000 left after paying all the bills ordered to be paid by Weller.
849 child support for one child
1000 child support to the previous wife for another child.
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3151 left after child support
6000 in interest paymts and other expences that Weller did not address in his order but had to be paid. Can´t tell the bank Weller said I don´t have to pay.
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-2849 left after bills that must be paid that Weller did not address.
15000 a month for attys fees to fund a war that he tried to settle many times rather than go BK.
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-17,849 left after attys fees. Remember Darren has yet to spend $1 on rent, food, gas, car, support one child full time that lived with him and one child that lived with him half time.
6000 a month for all the above. Darren had a minus cashflow of

$-23,849 per month

based on Judge Weller´s order. Live with that for 2 years!! and see if you need to file BK. Get a grip people.

So here it is in simple form. Weller a man making $44,000 a month to pay $61,849 before he got $1 to live on himself and to take care of his children when they lived with him. You make your own conclusion of fairness.

Remember criminals like Charla´s atty Shawn Meador and bought and paid for Judges can make anything look reasonable in court docs. The real test is how does it play out when you have to write the check and balance the checkbook. Don´t be fooled by the surface level BS. I have seen the bank records.

Posted by: mark at June 21, 2006 07:53 PM

And this one:

That is just one order. The first financial order that was posted is just one of 20 or more things that were Nazi like against Darren. By the way anyone who understands the law would know that he couldn't appeal until the entire case was finished including custody and the divorce decree issues. That is why those two things were stratigically put off by Shawn Meador into the future so as to keep Darren from any protection from another court. It is my understanding that he was in the middle of an emergency writ but those are very rarely issued.

They make up rules and they are the umpires so when they are crooked like in this case one has absolutely no chance at coming out without being robbed broke, put into BK, jailed, extorting the people around you, and then kidnapping your children. There is one place where one has no constitutional rights and that is in the 4 walls of the divorce court. It is just legalized organized crime.

It was not just with Darren but read fatherunite.org and you will see hundreds of stories of the crimes that divorce industry are inflicting on mostly men thoughtout this country. They are plain out crimes. Read them and weep for crimes being waged against mostly men in this country.

Posted by: Mark at June 22, 2006 11:11 AM

"Mark" had come here to my blog, and posted the first comment here in the comments to this post, The Legal Reader On Judge Weller, Part II. I didn't notice that slip into the first person until Legal Reader pointed it out. The e-mail address he used is anisangah@rgb.com. I found no results for that e-mail on Google, but I did find an "anisangah" who is a 13 year old Malaysian girl. No connection as far as I can see.

I checked the IP address, and it is the same one - 201.121.174.67. I'll ran a Whois search on the IP address. This is what I found:

OrgName: Latin American and Caribbean IP address Regional Registry
OrgID: LACNIC
Address: Potosi 1517
City: Montevideo
StateProv:
PostalCode: 11500
Country: UY

ReferralServer: whois://whois.lacnic.net

NetRange: 201.0.0.0 - 201.255.255.255
CIDR: 201.0.0.0/8
NetName: LACNIC-201
NetHandle: NET-201-0-0-0-1
Parent:
NetType: Allocated to LACNIC
NameServer: NS.LACNIC.NET
NameServer: NS2.DNS.BR
NameServer: TINNIE.ARIN.NET
NameServer: NS-SEC.RIPE.NET
NameServer: SEC3.APNIC.NET
NameServer: NS1.AFRINIC.NET
Comment: This IP address range is under LACNIC responsibility
Comment: for further allocations to users in LACNIC region.
Comment: Please see http://www.lacnic.net/ for further details,
Comment: or check the WHOIS server located at whois.lacnic.net
RegDate: 2003-04-03
Updated: 2005-12-05

OrgTechHandle: LACNIC-ARIN
OrgTechName: LACNIC Whois Info
OrgTechPhone:
OrgTechEmail: whois-contact@lacnic.net

I'm going to contact the Reno police and let them know that Darren Mack may also have been monitoring my blog. This is very interesting. I know that I have been at the top of Google lists for searches for Darren Mack. I've also been at close to the top of Google lists for searches for "Dean Tong" and "Darren Mack". I've always known that my blog is watched closely by fathers' rights activists, but I had no idea that Darren Mack may have been monitoring my blog while he was a fugitive.

If Darren Mack had indeed been monitoring my blog, that second comment of his seals it that he's been involved with father's rights groups. He recommended Fathers United. He was a member of Nevadans For Equal Justice, even though a leader of that group who has also commented here tried to brush that off as if Mack had only been to a meeting or two. It's clear that if in fact Mack had commented here and at Legal Reader, he is a father's rights activist, supporter, and member.


Posted on June 27, 2006 at 07:34 PM | Permalink | Comments (74)

Fathers' Rights Leader Under Investigation For Message He Circulated About The Darren Mack Case

Update: At ANCPR's blog, the following comments were made about Randy Dickinson and the threats he made. The comments are more threats of "do what we demand ... or else." All misspellings were in the original. Please note that the founder of ANCPR is Lowell Jaks, who was jailed for kidnapping his son. His ex-wife has custody. ANCPR's primary goal is to help men avoid paying child support. To read about Jaks and the kidnapping, go to my sidebar, scroll down to "Categories", and click on Lowell Jaks/ANCPR

http://ancpr.com/blog/archives/375

Sadly this appears o be an attempt by “Silver” to intimidate an activist that points out facts and truth. I guess the old adage 'never trust someone with a precious metal for a name' rings true in this case. I love how it he hides behind his counsel. What a baby old Sheldon is. Maybe he should tell us how little money it took from N.O.W for him to decide this information was worth twisting onto and disparging and activist for families and not gender feminists. Nice goig Sheldon! You make all honest men want to puke.

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I'm sorry, but we've been out there doing the right thing, condemnig violent attacks, and what does it get us? Nothing. We don’t have to _condone_ the attacks, we just have to point out that if all peaceful options are shut down, what do they expect?

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I am sure most reasonable people do not want to resort to violence and will seek peaceful means until all other avenues have been exhausted. But what happens then? Again, most will shrug their shoulders and continue on as best they can. Some will not. Some will take matters into their own hands. It is an unfortunate but true fact of life. The system has made so many men desperate beyond control and this type of outcome is inevitable. Shame on the man who comitted the violence. Double shame on those involved in, and even profit by, a corrupt system and refuse to try and change it.

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Not any ol' judge was shot, um… no, it was a corrupt one that feeds the power hungry evil monster that destroys families. And not any ol' corruption, but the one that benefits mothers 85% of the time. Humm..

Now what would happen if this weren't such a lucrative buniess for those abusing the authority granted them?

If I ever meet Darren Mack not only will I thank him, but will provide him whatever aide and comfort he needs to continue on his journey and all those in power be DAMNED they get nothing of his whereabouts from me.

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This is good news. I think these criminals are beginning to realize their fate. It may not be too long before the pounding at the door will be for criminals like Sheldon Silver. Except, when they come for Sheldon it will be in broad daylight and the door will open or be kicked in by officers executing a "lawful warrant" for his arrest.

This is "unadulterated proof" that these criminals are in fact a "domestic enemy", guilty of some of the most heinous crimes imaginable, and will try desperately to avoid their ultimate fate. They are directly responsible for tens of thousands of deaths and untold pain and suffering; making the egregious claim of acting in the “best interests of children”, while clearly in pursuit of nothing more than the almighty dollar.

In my opinion, no expense should be spared in rounding up, prosecuting and punishing these criminals to the fullest extent of the law. We must set an example that the last thing anyone in government will ever try again, is to pretend to know what is best for our children, or to violate our constitutional rights as United States Citizens.

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When the law and the people who administer it become corrupt, who is to say that violence is unjustified - we now live is a lawless society created by a mindless power hungry legislature and imposed by the very court system set up to administer the law. At this time it is now only a matter of point of view as to who is acting in an unjustified mannor. The thin veneer of respected authority is all that stands now before the complete collapse of the law. I suspect there will be more needless violence followed by heavy handed repression followed by more violence and more repression. More judges will be hurt or killed and some politicians like Sheldon Silver may also find themselves in the mob’s path. And to think this is all very unnecessary.

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Here is yet another father' rights leader threatening violence if fathers' rights demands are not met.

Dickinson is the vice president of the Coalition of Fathers and Families in New York. Members and leaders of this group had harassed women's activists and legislators during and after the failed New York shared parenting bill was heard in New York. The bill, which failed in committee, is mentioned in the article below. Dickinson was under investigation for messages he had sent to legislators about wife-killer and judge-shooter Darren Mack. He wrote: "Those who make peaceful revolution impossible will make violent revolution inevitable." He said: "[T]hey [legislative leaders] cannot continue to ignore our issues and refuse to provide any relief or accommodation, without encouraging violence from those more inclined to express their frustration and anger in that manner."

As I have been saying for years, these guys aren't poor, beleagured dads who are victims of vindictive ex-wives and biased court systems. They are abrasive, violent, and angry. They have supported what Darren Mack had done. They also make threats.

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Message proves unsettling

First published: Monday, June 26, 2006

One of the Capitol's best-known father's rights advocates found himself under investigation after he circulated a news story about the shooting of a judge.

Assembly Speaker Sheldon Silver's office said it couldn't discuss matters under investigation. State Police could not immediately provide details this weekend.

Randy Dickinson, vice president of the Coalition of Fathers and Families New York, said he sent an e-mail out to legislators earlier this month. It contained an Associated Press story about the June 12 shooting by a sniper of a Nevada family court judge.

According to published reports, Darren Mack, 45, allegedly stabbed and killed his estranged wife and shot Washoe County Family Court Judge Chuck Weller, who had been handling their divorce case. Mack surrendered to authorities Thursday in Mexico.

Dickinson also attached a quote from John F. Kennedy: "Those who make peaceful revolution impossible will make violent revolution inevitable."

According to Dickinson, someone apparently took the missive as a threat and Silver's counsel, Dan Conviser, contacted State Police.

Police showed up at Dickinson's house at 11:20 p.m. on June 16, "ringing the bell, pounding on the door, and calling my number via cellphone from outside the house." He didn't answer, he said, since he didn't know who was there.

Another officer showed up at 10 a.m. the next day and interviewed him. The officer, Dickinson said, found no crime had been committed, and told him "it was a little absurd for him to have even been instructed to look into the matter." Dickinson said he believes the case was closed.

Dickinson's group has been pushing for what it claims would be more equitable divorce and custody laws in New York. One of its priorities this year was a shared-parenting bill opposed by the National Organization for Women's New York chapter. It died in committee.

Dickinson said he was just trying to make a point the group has communicated in the past to legislative leaders, that "they cannot continue to ignore our issues and refuse to provide any relief or accommodation, without encouraging violence from those more inclined to express their frustration and anger in that manner."

The quote, he said, "was meant to emphasize that one of their own heroes and an icon of the Democratic Party warned them that the lid cannot be kept on people's passions forever, without expecting trouble."

"You'd think they might appreciate being made aware of public sentiment and the consequences of ignoring it," Dickinson said. "Maybe not."

Posted on June 27, 2006 at 10:46 AM | Permalink | Comments (39)

June 24, 2006

For Darren Mack, It Was All About The Money

Lots of bloggers who have been following the Darren Mack case wondered if he was angry because Judge Weller might have given his wife custody of their daughter. I just found out that Weller ordered joint custody, alternating weeks. Weller should never have ordered joint custody for two warring parents. Joint custody only makes extreme conflict that was the case in their divorce worse.

Mack was a millionaire, and his wife was a stay-at-home mom. What really pissed off Mack was the money he was ordered to pay his wife.

The judge said the non-custodial parent should pay 18 percent of his or her gross monthly income for child support, not to exceed $849 per month. Since Darren Mack earned a gross monthly income of $44,000, and Charla's income was zero, Darren was required to pay child support each month.

Eighteen percent of $44,000 would be about $7,920 per month, but state law capped child support at $849, so Darren was required to pay that amount, Weller said in his order.

Weller then ordered Darren Mack to help Charla with her household expenses: $10,000 per month. And he awarded Charla the "temporary exclusive possession" of the couple's home, "as long as she fully cooperates with the sale of the home."

The judge made Darren Mack responsible for paying the mortgages, "taxes, lawn, gas, electric, pool/Jacuzzi, TV/satellite, insurance, water, alarm, garbage, pest control and telephone."

He was not allowed to enter the home without Charla's permission, Weller's order said.

Mack had tried to bully his wife into a settlement that satisfied him, telling her that if she refused, he would file for bankruptcy and destroy her, and she wouldn't get a red cent. That's exactly what he had done. I've heard other mothers describe a similar tactic taken on by their husbands when the guys don't want to pay child support or other financially-related orders. Child support is not affected by bankruptcy, so that backfires on them.

While Charla Mack was trying to prevent the house from being foreclosed upon and trying to pay her bills without any money, Darren Mack was traveling around the world, enjoying his swinger lifestyle. I have nothing against swingers. Whatever floats your boat. I do have problems with a man trying to dodge his financial responsibiliities, harming his daughter's peace of mind, welfare and home, all the while traipsing around the world bedding a different woman nearly every other weekend.

The RGJ.com article stated that "[b]etween May and August 2005, Darren Mack only paid his wife $9,000 of the $40,000 he owed her in alimony and also failed to pay court-ordered mortgage payments on the home in which the mother and daughter lived, according to court records. The home was valued at more than $1 million, according to court records." At one point, Weller had to order Mack to pay his wife $2,000 so that the power could be turned back on in her home. His daughter lived in that home, according to the joint custody arrangement. His daughter lived in a home without power because her father didn't care enough to make sure she'd be secure and safe.

Despite filing for bankruptcy, Mack continued to live his "lavish lifestyle", traveling and engaging in swinging. He has a Myspace site where he wants to find a "beautiful, sensual, sexual, smart, fun woman with a respectful attitude and enjoy all life has to offer. Get ready for too much fun.""

Darren Mack was even named "Father Of The Year" on a billboard, with Charla's blessing. This "Father Of The Year" let his daughter's household go to the dogs by not paying what he owed. It wasn't like he couldn't afford it. The guy is a millionaire.

Here's something I found very interesting. Mack was one of Dahlia Lithwick's former clients, and she helped him with his first successful custody case that he had fought with his first wife. Charla Mack was Mack's second wife. Lithwick described how Darren Mack and Charla Mack frequented her office, filling out paperwork to take his children away from their mother. He eventually won custody. The two children are now in their late teens.

I billed hundreds of hours on the Mack case many years ago, when I was clerking for a small family law firm in Reno and he was fighting his first wife for custody of their children. Darren and Charla logged countless hours with us at our conference table, drafting pleadings and preparing for depositions; after court hearings, we would unwind at some nice casino restaurant. Darren was somehow always at the other side of my desk, or on the other end of the phone line, urging me to think about why his kids needed him, and why he alone was their ally. The firm was not involved in this second divorce and custody fight.

So, Charla Mack was a second wife who helped her non-custodial dad husband gain custody of his children. When they divorced, he pulled the same malicious litigation tactics on her. I have heard from plenty of second wives who had helped their husbands with their custody cases, only to get the same treatment from him when they divorced. They have a big wake-up call when that happens. Charla Mack's case ended in the most unspeakable way, but knowing that she had helped him win custody of his children from his first wife really gave me pause.

Posted on June 24, 2006 at 04:12 PM | Permalink | Comments (39)