January 29, 2010
I Want To See More Sex On TV
I read the article "Sex On TV: It's Increasingly Uncut - And Unavoidable" with great interest since I'm a big fan of some television shows that have lots of sex in them. Not necessarily outright boffing on the small screen, but sexually explicit topics. Of course, the "family values" types who brought us Family Hour every night is up in arms about the increasing sexual content on television, especially on cable.
As far as I'm concerned, I'd rather see more positive sexual content on television than the constant violence that's airing every night. While I'm a huge fan of the "Law & Order" franchise, watching repeated rapes and violations of women on prime time television wears me down after awhile. I'm happy that rape and child abuse are covered in a responsible manner on shows like "Law & Order: Special Victims Unit" and the CSIs, but there's also the sensationalism I've seen coming from all of those shows. Yes, I know it's entertainment, but all the violence really wears me out.
As for me, bring on the sex! The sexier the better. I'm sorry Oxygen cancelled Dr. Sue Johanson's "Talk Sex". I saw a few episodes, and I welcomed the frank and open talk about sex. I'm also happy to see more commercials that advertise products meant to enhance women's sexual pleasure as opposed to the endless commercials praising erections and preventing pregnancy. I've even seen a late-night cable show where two women describe popular sex toys for viewers to enjoy. Let's hear it for sexual pleasure, especially when women are depicted as enjoying sex for sex's sake.
The main reason the article I link to was written was because of two new television shows that I won't be able to see because I don't get premium cable. One is "Spartacus" and the other is "Secret Diary Of A Call Girl". While I never read her blog, I was aware of Belle du Jour and her call girl diary. I'm also a fan of Billie Piper, who plays the call girl, ever since I saw her in "Doctor Who". I'll have to wait until these two shows come out on DVD before I can see them. Count me in! I'm interested!
I also like provocative train wrecks like "Nip/Tuck" and "The Jerry Springer Show". I can't look away from the screen when Springer is on. It's the only daytime TV I watch. Each case is worse than the last. Granted, shows like Springer and "Nip/Tuck" give us the worst people to watch, but I like to see both shows jump the shark every episode because they are very entertaining. I've even learned about some new sexual disorders from "Nip/Tuck" such as sexsomnia and objectophilia (sexual attraction to inanimate objects). I realize that the average American is rather prudish when it comes to sexuality, so television shows about sex and bizarre relationships that go over the top are a comfortable way for the squeamish amongst us to enjoy exposure to sex on television.
Other shows I enjoy that are more documentarian in fashion are "Taboo" and "The Secret Lives Of Women". These shows cover much more than simply sex, although sex in its various fashions has been covered. The coverage is still somewhat sensational, but sex is being covered on television period, which is a good thing.
I recognize that both "Spartacus" and "The Secret Diary Of A Call Girl" are also rather sensationalized, and maybe that's the best way to depict sex on television these days - saturate the viewer until open depictions and talk of sex lose some of its stigma. Once those shows come out on DVD, I'll watch both of them.
January 28, 2010
Paula Cole's "Where Have All The Cowboys Gone?"
I live in Paula Cole's hometown so this song is special to me. Enjoy!
January 27, 2010
The Allure Of The Cougar
Being a cougar is all about enjoying your age and not being ashamed of it. Sexy older women have rejected men their own age who have tossed them aside for younger women. Since cougars invade older men's "I will date younger people" territory, that makes the older men feel a bit slow and old.
Valerie Gibson’s book, “Cougar: A Guide For Older Women Dating Younger Men”, lays out the cougar in all her juicy splendor. You know what you are getting with this book because of the luscious tongue licking a pair of bright red female lips on the book’s cover. Cougars loathe commitment, and according to Gibson they view their men as “prey”.
When most people think of May-December romances, they think of a silver-haired older man with a young, lovely creature hanging on his arm. These men reject women their age for younger women. Older women today have fired back at men their age who overlook them in favor of dating nubile young women. Some older men feel threatened by cougars, since cougars make them feel slow and old. Cougars invade the “I will date younger people” territory that has been held by older men for aeons. Gibson wrote that separated and divorced older men “are a major source of hostility when it comes to older women dating younger men.” The cougar merely turns her head away from these older men, and gives them the brush-off that they have been giving to older women for years.
Being a cougar is a fun thing for the women who like it. I personally gravitate to older men, and I have as long as I've been interested in men. Still, I wouldn't turn down a younger man. Some have been interested in me, and I liked the thrill of being viewed as sexy by a man ten years younger than me.
Here are some good things I've noticed about younger men, when I was in the dating scene. I'm married now, but I can still look. Keep in mind that these observations are coming from a woman who has normally gravitated towards much older men. I guess I like men of all ages.
* Younger guys like the same type of music I like.
* Younger guys are more likely to like the quirky films I like, especially horror movies and cult films. Every time I raved about how much I love those gory Dario Argento Italian horror flicks, it's been a younger guy who raved with me.
* Younger guys lavish attention on sexy older women who are with them.
* Younger guys don't treat their cougar like a child. However, they do like to be spoiled.
* Younger guys tend to not have ex-wife and kids baggage. There's nothing like a bitter, divorced, middle-aged man to put a damper on the sexy fun.
While the sexual "prey" aspect of the cougar is attractive, I think that there is much more to being a cougar than dating younger men. Cougars are not afraid of disagreeing with anyone or stating their opinion without feeling that they have to have approval, especially male approval. They are financially independent, or at the very least they are earning money doing something they love. They enjoy sex, and they like to experiment. They are intelligent, and they enjoy learning more about life. Cougars are in control. Poor self-esteem is not one of their problems. Cougars are comfortable being themselves, no matter what anyone else thinks.
January 26, 2010
Fooling Around From Trysts To Cyber Affairs
I have long been fascinated with affairs, ever since I was in college and I realized that some married men would screw anything female with legs, as long as the woman presented herself to him in an appealing manner. I was occasionally that woman. It wasn't just men who cheated on their spouses. Women have cheated countless times throughout history.
Is it really cheating if you never meet in person, leaving your sweaty paw prints all over the computer screen when interacting with your honey? I recall an article about a guy who was addicted to the online role playing game "Second Life", and his real life wife was not happy that he had cheated on her with a woman he had "married" in the game. I found the real life wife posting on the Yahoo group EverQuest Widows, and she was so pissed about the article and all the new things she learned about her husband's cyber affair that she had decided to divorce his ass.
A man had described a near-miss he had with his wife. The paragraphs below describe that incident:
Is it really an affair if it's only on the Internet? What about hot, steamy e-mail exchanges? The concensus from my research into that article was that, yes, indeed, a married person who has cybersex is having an affair. Energy, attention, and sometimes even money are paid to the person who is not the adulterer's spouse.
Here are some movies and books that address the time-honored practice of infidelity:
The Scarlet Letter
Same Time, Next Year
The Bridges Of Madison County
The Postman Always Rings Twice
52 Pick Up
Actors are also well known for their affairs. Katherine Hepburn has long been known to be Spencer Tracy's lover, but his wife would not give him a divorce because they were Catholic. Elizabeth Taylor cheated on Eddie Fisher with Richard Burton, and later married Burton. Twice. When Billy Bob Thornton met Angelina Jolie, he was living with Laura Dern. Dern had once stated that "I left home to work on a movie, and while I was away, my boyfriend got married, and I've never heard from him again." Angelina Jolie made the news again when she was linked with a very married Brad Pitt. As anyone with a pulse knows by now, Pitt left wife Jennifer Aniston and hooked up with Jolie. They are still together, and Jolie's pregnancies and adopted children have made gossip columnists very happy.
So, affairs are common, but they can also be devastating. I've never been with a man who cheated on me, but I have been involved with married men when I was younger and much more reckless. For any woman who is considering the idea of having an affair with a married man, I can tell you due to my experience that he isn't worth it. For one thing, it's likely that he would cheat on you should he leave his wife for you. Then again, most married men don't leave their wives for their mistresses. You're in for a lonely life if you have an affair with a married man.
Affairs have been great fodder for literature and movies for many years, and they will continue to draw crowds.
January 25, 2010
In Favor Of More Provocative Depictions Of Sex
Sex toys and sex in general get such a bad rap sometimes, but hopefully things are changing in U. S. society. Hopefully we won't see people who enjoy using sex toys branded as deviants by the courts anymore. And the higher presence of sex on television is very welcome, even if it is over the top strange.
I have always enjoyed using sex toys. At the moment, my favorite sex toy is the Pocket Rocket Booster. When I can't sleep at night, getting an orgasm from my Pocket Rocket Booster relaxes me enough so that I can get my requisite ten hours of shut-eye. I love to sleep. I used to be a light sleeper, but as I aged, I've developed the sleeping habits of a bear in hibernation. Nothing wakes me up now, which is a switch since a car backfiring four miles away used to wake me up in an instant.
I have other favorite sex toys, including the Rabbit Pearl, Lelo Liv, Lelo Gigi, and the Silver Bullet. I think that sex toys provide a much-needed service to men and women. They feel good. They are great fun to share. They put some oomph in your sex life when you have no clue what to do for variety.
So why do sex toys get such a bad rap in the media?
I was disheartened when "Talk Sex" with Sue Johanson was cancelled. I have seen that show a few times, and it was very entertaining and informative. Johanson is 78, which strikes me as a great thing - showing an older woman who enjoys sex and enjoys talking about it. She reminded me of Dr. Ruth Westheimer. I have no idea why Oxygen nixed the show's return, but I will miss it.
As far as I know, there are no regions in the U. K. where sex toys are banned, unlike several southern states in the U. S. The sale of sex toys is prohibited in the state of Alabama, for instance. This law mainly applies to brick and mortar stores. I suppose that doesn't stop Alabamans from buying their sex toys online.
News reports from the U. S. described a rape case where the prosecution wanted to include the alleged rapists collection of sex toys as "evidence" that he is depraved. The judge wisely said no to that. Using sex toys does not make you a rapist or a pervert. Not only that, the accused did not use sex toys in allegedly perpetrating the crimes. Perfectly normal people enjoy using sex toys. Legal tactics such as that unfairly malign sex toys.
In another case, this one a rape and murder, a man was accused of raping and murdering his step-daughter. The prosecution tried to place the blame on the dead woman's mother, citing her collection of sex toys as "proof" that she was the one who was sex addict, not the accused. Using sex toys doesn't make you a sex addict. Where on earth do these attitudes come from?
Despite stories such as those, there were good articles about sex toys. In particular, the greening of sex toys has become popular as of late, such as making sure that modern sex toys do not contain phthalates.
All in all, sex toys help people to enjoy their sexuality more. A G-spot vibrator can help a woman find her ever elusive G-spot if she is like me and can't find the little bugger with her fingertips. I love to use erotic massage oils and flavoured body paint. Those items make sex and sensation play much more enjoyable and downright silly sometimes. As long as people like sex, they will buy sex toys. I'm very happy to see condom and female arousal gel commercials on prime time TV. Sex is a popular topic in shows like "Nip/Tuck", "Californication", "Cougar Town", and "Desperate Housewives". I'd also like very much to see Billie Piper in "The Diary Of A Call Girl", but I don't get Starz. *Sigh*. Must wait for it to come out on Blockbuster. I read Belle Du Jour's blog so the show will be very interesting to me. So let's see more provocative depictions of sex and sex toys in the news. I'll be a fan.
January 19, 2010
Cher - Walking In Memphis
I record "The X Files" every weekday so I can watch it the next day, and it's a real treat getting to see the show every day. And the episodes are in order. Today's episode was "The Post-Modern Prometheus", the black and white episode about The Great Mutato. It has a great song sung by Cher, "Walking In Menphis". Here's the song via Youtube.
January 13, 2010
OMG That Poor Mouse!
Now this is a funny commercial. I feel so badly for that poor mouse...
No! No! No!
I can't believe that Hollywood is going to remake "Ferris Buehler's Day Off". WHY? The movie is perfection and a remake or sequel will ruin things! LEAVE IT ALONE!
Since a Farker asked for this song, I'm posting Yello's "Oh Yeah", which played during "Ferris Buehler's Day Off". Love this song.
January 12, 2010
Politik by Coldplay
This song played at the end of Sunday's "Cold Case". It's "Politik" by Coldplay.
January 11, 2010
Specsavers - Every Sperm Is Sacred!
Check out this video, which just shows that sperm rule! The little buggers practically have personhood these days, although it looks like this one needed a GPS.
The video is also on my sidebar.
And now, because it's so fitting, the lyrics to "Every Sperm Is Sacred", from "Monty Python's The Meaning Of Life":
In case you haven't had enough, here's the Youtube of "Every Sperm Is Sacred".