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November 13, 2009
Why Do Women Have Orgasms?
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Why do women have orgasms? It's obvious why men do - they ejaculate and that leads to pregnancy. A man's orgasm helps to carry on the genetic line. So, why do women have orgasms? One theory to which I don't subscribe is that women have orgasms much for the same reason that men have nipples. It's a matter of parity. If men didn't have nipples, women might evolve to lack nipples, and that would prevent them from nursing their young. Therefore, women's orgasms are a benefit given to them to show parity in men having orgasms in order to ejaculate.
I don't buy it for a second. This view reduces women's sexuality to being "all about the men", and that narrow view is a slap in the face to women. While I've had some difficulty coming lately, I do have orgasms quite regularly, and I can count the benefits without any problem whatsoever. Here are a few:
1. Orgasms are great stress relievers. If I'm full of nervous energy and I need to calm down, a screaming orgasm helps to calm me down. My blood pressure drops like an elevator once my orgasm is finished, and I feel the calm just wash over me. It's a wonderful feeling.
2. It feels good. That's the best benefit of all. Orgasms just feel great. They are enjoyable sensations that permeate my entire body.
3. An orgasm brings me closer to my husband. I can speak for many women who say that an orgasm and especially the afterglow brings them closer to their partners. Cuddling and resting after a hot bout of sex is a great stress-reliever and it makes you feel all warm and fuzzy.
4. Orgasms relieve menstrual cramps. I'm having my period now, and the orgasm I had last night set those painful cramps packing. I did have to take some aspirin to completely kill the cramps, but the orgasm definitely helped.
5. I'm convinced that the female orgasm helps to draw semen into the uterus, which of course encourages pregnancy. Gotta keep those genes moving on down the gene pool, after all.
6. Multiple orgasms - men are jealous that they can't have them. I have had several orgasms one right after the other, and when that happens I nearly pass out. I can also sometimes have orgasms not long after each other when I'm especially horny. Not many men can come again that quickly after ejaculating.
7. Female sexual desire and orgasms may lead women to select multiple partners. Hey, if the guys can do it, why can't women? Anthropologist Sarah Hrdy doesn't think women choosing multiple partners is necessarily a good thing, because of the punitive treatment "cheating" women are given in modern societies. Some studies have shown that some women cheat quite often, almost as much as some men, so there could be some truth to the multiple partners theory. Sex feels good, so many women are likely to seek out multiple partners, especially when they find partners who are especially good in the sack.
Orgasms are treats that I enjoy very much, and I know that having them isn't just a side benefit that is really meant to make men feel more important. A female orgasm isn't a "side effect" of the supposedly more important male orgasm. It's beneficial to women all by itself.
Posted on November 13, 2009 at 11:13 AM | Permalink
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if women didn't have orgasms then the human race would die out in no time because all the men would be brutally murdered...we can be such pigs at the best of times but without the de-stressing properties of the female climax then we'd be doomed!
Posted by: adamantixx at Nov 13, 2009 1:19:37 PM
Sounds like the Lysistrada effect. If men won't stop wars, women will stop having sex with them. too bad that didn't work. Love your comment adamantixx. :)
Posted by: The Countess at Nov 13, 2009 5:22:10 PM
Mayhaps the orgasm is there to promote sexual reproduction. Would women want to have sex as often as men if they didn't enjoy it? Sure, rape and the like might allow reproduction to some extent, but society would not evolve to what it has today. Plus, if a man sows his wild oats everywhere, then a woman who had a good orgasm would want to keep him, being nice to him and such, and he would become the good provider (prehistorically speaking). Of course, I would think it has something to do with women oftentimes (not always of course0 being hornier when they're ovulating, to promote sex, which means there's got to be more to orgasms too.
Posted by: marux at Nov 14, 2009 12:38:18 AM
Those are all great reasons for women to have orgasms, but don't exactly explain _why_ we have them.
I am in the "for the same reason men have nipples" category.
BUT I think you're missing an important piece of the puzzle. For procreation, it is necessary that a man have an orgasm -- but before that, it is necessary for a woman to open herself up and let him in.
Therefore, I think that it's the male side of ourselves that predisposes us to orgasms, but the female side of ourselves that predisposes us to foreplay. Surely, getting there is most of the fun. It would be all about men if we just automatically threw open our legs and allowed anyone -- or even a certain someone -- to fuck us at will. But hopefully that's not how most human sex happens. Hopefully, women are seduced to the point that they crave having a man inside them. That's the very best sex.
Posted by: JoyfulC at Nov 14, 2009 4:43:17 PM
Your presumption about item #6 is exactly right. Discovery Health did a series on human sexuality and actually showed what happens when a woman orgasms. Her uterus, when spasming from the orgasm, actually dips down into the vagina and, if a man has already orgasmed, actually "sucks" the semen into the uterus. During this same series, it explained that a women having an orgasm before a man has ejaculated or pre-ejaculated, then the uterus's pH level changes and produces chemicals that actually kills off much of the semen. If a woman is trying to get pregnant, then to better the chances, the man needs to make sure that the woman has an orgasm AFTER her lover/partner has orgasmed and not before. It was very interesting to see the uterus spasming during the orgasm as well as the semen ejaculating inside the vagina. So, there is a biological reason that a woman has an orgasm, but the timing of the orgasm helps decide if the woman ends up pregnant.
Posted by: Timothy at Apr 19, 2010 5:50:26 PM
Women have orgasms to bring out the most precious feeling of nature, and to show men how special we are
Posted by: Carol White at Feb 21, 2012 8:21:22 PM
