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November 06, 2005

So That Explains Judith Miller's Problems and Maureen Dowd Whining About Men...

Judy Miller has credibility problems, and Poor Maureen Dowd can't get a date. This explains it all:

[Swiped from Feministing.]

Posted on November 6, 2005 at 03:47 PM | Permalink

Comments

I actually am getting ready to do a post about this on my blog. Many people appear angry with Maureen Dowd for her article...

The biggest problem seems to be with women who don't want to hear what she has to say. The botttom line is that accomplished women often DO wind up being alone.

Even US News with the article about: America's Best featured Condi Rice, Oprah Winfrey, Donna Shalala, (all women alone with no kids) and a few other women (whose situation I wasn't even sure of, that's how much on the downlow their status was kept). Even this Harriet Miers who Bush nominated for the Supreme Court was a child free never married woman, although they tried to link her with some 'boyfriend' I don't think most Americans brought it...

Maybe there is no solution to this as the nature of man probably wants younger, less worldly women when they are ready to settle down and we have to accept this...

AND women must plan their lives around this fact. NOT get angry at the messenger.

Posted by: NYMOM at Nov 6, 2005 10:42:30 PM

Oprah's alone? Does her boyfriend know about it?

Posted by: Sheena at Nov 6, 2005 11:21:15 PM

I read Dowd's rant about men not wanting to date her. She thinks it's because she's successful. She said something about men marrying their secretaries - women who were less powerful than they were. I just wondered why she was trying to attract the attention of men who felt intimidated by her success. Just ignore them. They aren't worth the worry. Find a man who respects you. They are out there. I found one. I'm sure there are many more.

Posted by: The Countess at Nov 7, 2005 9:05:53 AM

"Oprah's alone? Does her boyfriend know about it?"

I'm sorry but I don't consider a boyfriend a commitment...especially when you have no kids with him...he's a nobody...most women want a marriage or at least something like Kirk Russell and Goldie Hawn have, a committed relationship with kids.

AND I don't want to have a whole fight about this concerning whether or not most women want kids...Most have them so I'm assuming in this age of reliable birth control, most want them...

I don't believe women want to be like Oprah or Maureen Dowd or even Condi Rice, wonderful women all, but most women want a marriage and children...not particularly in that order, but something close to it...

Posted by: NYMOM at Nov 7, 2005 7:30:55 PM

Women aren't weakened by admitting we want these things.

It makes us stronger and wiser to be truthful about it.

I'm sorry I spent the last ten years focused on other things: I wished I had realized the time element involved here and looked around me a little harder to find someone and built a relationship...

That many of us misssed out on it in this generation can be an example to our daughters; however, and help other women know to be more planful in the future regarding these areas...meaning relationships must be planned for, just like careers. We can't expect that we will just naturally find them w/o some effort going into planning for them...

I find Dowd's attempt to advise younger women, sarcastic, but good...

Posted by: NYMOM at Nov 7, 2005 7:38:12 PM

"I found one. I'm sure there are many more."

I would NOT be too sure of that...actually just from the little I know about your husband and the few posts we've exchange I happen to think he's quite unique and there are NOT a lot out there like him.

You got pretty lucky lady...

There are a LOT more guys out there like the ones who post on SYG and other similar places; then there are guys like your husband...

Sorry to have to tell you that...

Posted by: NYMOM at Nov 7, 2005 7:41:46 PM

"Women aren't weakened by admitting we want these things.

It makes us stronger and wiser to be truthful about it. "

Well, in the interest of increasing my strength & wisdom - I swear to you on my grandmother's grave, I do not want children. And I'm being truthful when I say that.

I don't particularly want marriage either, but I could go other way on that one. What matters to me is the quality of the relationship, and the qualities of the other person. Oprah's had a very longstanding relationship, with someone with whom she seems to share a mutual love, respect, and admiration. That's what matters: not whether it's a marriage or not.

Posted by: Sheena at Nov 8, 2005 2:11:32 AM

Well as I said earlier MOST women have children, so in a society of very effective birth control, I must assume MOST women have children because MOST women want them.

It's a real choice today...

I happen to think making a commitment to a marriage says something about the overall commitment between the two people involved; so I have to disagree that just living with someone or having a b/f shows the same committment as a marriage does.

Actually I usually find the more accomplished individual is the one not wanting to marry. So this kind of makes me think that this individual is just attempting to protect their income and assets from the lesser accomplished person by not marrying them.

So right there tells me something about the quality of a live-in relationship versus a married one.

After saying that however, I also have to add I don't particular care if you either live with someone or marry them...

I was just commenting on what I think is the difference.

Posted by: NYMOM at Nov 8, 2005 9:13:19 AM

"Find a man who respects you. They are out there. I found one. I'm sure there are many more."

I found one too, Trish. Actually I found three more (was seeing them all when I settled on my now-husband) with whom I almost certainly could have had a decent marriage, but hubby was far and away the best match. They're definitely out there.

Posted by: Anne at Nov 8, 2005 11:26:25 AM

I think if more single women didn't only go for financially well-off men (and I think Maureen Dowd is a CLASSIC example) they would have less trouble finding that special someone.

There are lots of decent men out there; most of them are just not Donald Trumps.

And I know plenty of smart, successful women with husbands. Most of them are just not famous.

Posted by: reasonableFeminist at Nov 23, 2005 2:42:31 AM

There's an article that proves this:

http://www.womensenews.org/article.cfm/dyn/aid/2512

Posted by: reasonableFeminist at Nov 23, 2005 2:50:42 AM