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October 20, 2005

October Is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

... and fathers' and men's rights activists aren't too happy about it.

The PBS documentary "Breaking The Silence: Children's Stories" is about child victims of abuse, especially those who have been given to their abusive fathers by the courts. Fathers' and men's rights activists have predictably protested the airing of this documentary, and have demanded that it either not be aired, or that they get so-called equal time to air their side of the issue. Their side is full of unsupported garbage about women being as abusive as men, and women lying frequently to get restraining orders to use as leverage in court in abuse, divorce, and custody cases. "Breaking The Silence" is due to air in my area on October 21. I plan to watch it. I know that local fathers' rights groups have written and called PBS in protest of the airing of this documentary. I have written to PBS to urge them to air it.

In related news, via the Family Law Professors Blog:

Screening for Domestic Violence

"In conjunction with Domestic Violence Awareness Month, the ABA Commission on Domestic Violence is proud to announce the release of our latest publication, “Tool for Attorneys to Screen for Domestic Violence.”  This wonderful resource is for use by ALL attorneys who provide individual representation to enable them to identify if their client is a victim of domestic violence.  The Tool contains suggested questions to integrate into interview questions, as well as guidance on how an attorney can provide support and resources to their clients who are victims of domestic violence." By the ABA Commission on Domestic Violence Link to Download Tool (last visited 10-19-05 NVS)

Posted on October 20, 2005 at 10:43 AM | Permalink

Comments

I notice that our local PBS station, WNED-Buffalo, is not showing this until November, and then at 10PM and 2AM. Who's going to watch it, except a few insomniacs who are sick of the usual infomercials? Gee, sonder if Fathers Rights of Western NY had anything to do with it...not to get paranoid or anything....

Posted by: silverside at Oct 20, 2005 11:03:21 AM

Eerily enough as in ooooh spooky, Atlanta's PBS station, WPBA-30, is showing "Breaking the Silence on Halloween at 11:00 p.m. Since Wendy Titelman's Cobb County Georgia case is included in the documentary, I can't help but wonder if there's some sinister force behind WPBA's programming? Could it be the father's rights groups and their attorneys at the AAML or Wendy's Judge James Bodiford of the Tri-State Crematory case who was quoted in the AJC as trading favors with Judge Bo Wood who temporarily took over Wendy's custody case? Heck, throw in GA's KKK and this would make a great made-for-TV thriller.

Posted by: Vicki Pierce at Oct 20, 2005 3:18:25 PM

Vicky, have you written to WPBA-30 to protest the late airing? I know that some activists are writing to stations that are showing the documentary very late or at 0-dark-thirty in the morning, saying that it needs to be on during prime time. I recommend you tell your colleagues to do just that.

Posted by: The Countess at Oct 20, 2005 3:46:26 PM

Trish, yes I have and so have a lot of others here who have followed Wendy's case. At least WPBA-30 is airng the documentary albeit late-night on Halloween , but GPB-30 is not airing at all. I e-mailed and left messages and have heard bupkis from them. But then that's par for the course considering Wendy is up against a big-time celebrity AAML lawyer, John Mayoue, and in Atlanta the AAML laywers get all the PR quotes on family law in the Atlanta Journal Consitution.
I'm considered a gadly here. Maybe contacts from outside Georgia could help put some pressure on them?

Here's their URL:

http://www.gpb.org/public/tv/index.jsp

Posted by: Vicki Pierce at Oct 20, 2005 4:44:02 PM

Trish, yes I have and so have a lot of others here who have followed Wendy's case. At least WPBA-30 is airng the documentary albeit late-night on Halloween , but GPB-30 is not airing at all. I e-mailed and left messages and have heard bupkis from them. But then that's par for the course considering Wendy is up against a big-time celebrity AAML lawyer, John Mayoue, and in Atlanta the AAML laywers get all the PR quotes on family law in the Atlanta Journal Consitution.
I'm considered a gadly here. Maybe contacts from outside Georgia could help put some pressure on them?

Here's their URL:

http://www.gpb.org/public/tv/index.jsp

Posted by: Vicki Pierce at Oct 20, 2005 4:44:43 PM

I wrote a nice long letter to WNED outlining the reality of fathers rights in the Western New York (actual board members of organizations with breaking and entry arrests, etc., and that's just for a warm up.) And also just a few of the horror stories I have heard from women around here. If I get a better time out of all this, will let you know. So far the only PBS station to send back any response is your Beantown one up there. You Yankees are so polite! Brought up with good manners, that's for sure.

Posted by: silverside at Oct 20, 2005 9:10:22 PM

Screening for Domestic Violence

"In conjunction with Domestic Violence Awareness Month, the ABA Commission on Domestic Violence is proud to announce the release of our latest publication, “Tool for Attorneys to Screen for Domestic Violence.” This wonderful resource is for use by ALL attorneys who provide individual representation to enable them to identify if their client is a victim of domestic violence. The Tool contains suggested questions to integrate into interview questions, as well as guidance on how an attorney can provide support and resources to their clients who are victims of domestic violence." By the ABA Commission on Domestic Violence Link to Download Tool


wow, I hope we can stop this one. This a trick the Fathers' and men's rights activists have been trying to get legislated for years. They think they can convince lawyers and judges that women are falsely accusing their
husbands and boyfriends of domestic violence and if they are screened by
male lawyers they will believe the women are lying.

Posted by: pearlwisdom at Oct 20, 2005 10:12:04 PM

Pearlwisdom, considering the document is from the American Bar Association Commission On Domestic Violence, and that the ABA rejects Parental Alienation Syndrome, it's a good thing. Attorneys need good tools to screen for domestic violence. Too many of them have little experience with the issue, and don't recognize abuse even when it's right in their faces. Abusers can be very cagey and charming when it suits them. They often fool attorneys, judges, and other legal professionals. Educating attorneys as to the facts about domestic violence - not nonsense propogated by fathers' rights activists - will go a long way to protect women and children who are victims of abuse.

Posted by: The Countess at Oct 20, 2005 10:16:35 PM

"They often fool attorneys, judges, and other legal professionals. Educating attorneys as to the facts about domestic violence - not nonsense propogated by fathers' rights activists - will go a long way to protect women and children who are victims of abuse."

I have to disagree. I don't believe that men who really hurt their spouses fool anyone, including the attorneys, judges, and other legal professionals. I think the male dominated hierachy protects these men. Sure, they advocate harsh punishment and rehabilitation ect, but in reality do the real offenders get punished? Seldom if ever. Look at the LAPD. They have dozens of officers behind desks that were convicted of assault and battery and the only time they spend in jail was the time(s) they were arrested.

And I also know from acquaintances that this education idea has been a ploy of fathers rights' groups for years. The name John Knight might ring a bell with you. He and a group of his cohorts almost got something like this approved in Orange County about 10+ years ago. But luckily when the right people looked into it, the idea got flat out rejected.


Posted by: pearlwisdom at Oct 20, 2005 10:51:49 PM

Yeah, it never ends, does it Vicky? I know that fathers' rights activists will continue to write to protest after the documentary airs. You might want to keep writing, saying that you are aware that other stations in other states have aired it, and continue to pressure your local affiliates to carry it. Write letters so that your statements are in writing. Get others in your area to write as well. Call on the phone if you're up to that.

I'm happy that fathers' rights activists couldn't get the document pulled completely the way they wanted to. Are you able to get a copy of it, or do you already have it?

Posted by: The Countess at Oct 20, 2005 11:24:33 PM

Greetings....is there anything in this documentary about the organizations who are trying to prevent domestic violence? Everyone knows DV is a big issue with family courts, they're not going to do anything about. Most of the guys getting locked up are there for failure to pay child support.

Posted by: alex at Oct 22, 2005 7:01:14 PM

Lundy Bancroft, who is associated with the documentary, is part of the Battered Mothers Custody Conference. It's an organization that focuses on battered mothers and abused children. It holds a yearly conference which I believe is in January.

I know that a group near me, Jane Doe, Inc., promoted the documentary. I don't think it was actually mentioned in the documentary, though.

Posted by: The Countess at Oct 22, 2005 7:35:55 PM

countess you need to check this guys website out Lundy Bancroft Website

I think he's a certified wacko who has figured out "if you can't beat them join them". He's jumped on the same bandwagon as the family court industry. And the fathers' rights organizations. They're all exploiting the DV cottage industry. And he's trying to build an institution with all the books, a documentary, forums, articles, therapy and the list goes on.

Let me ask this question, if all these people, organizations and the government care so much about women victims of DV why isn't anything being done to prevent it from happening? Why isn't a solution ever suggested? Because like the Vietnam Conflict and Iraq War and so many other heinous industries too many people are making too much money to find a reasonable solution.

Posted by: alex at Oct 22, 2005 9:55:56 PM

I meant to say, they're making too much money, so they don't want to find a solution.

Posted by: alex at Oct 23, 2005 5:44:32 PM

"wow, I hope we can stop this one. This a trick the Fathers' and men's rights activists have been trying to get legislated for years. They think they can convince lawyers and judges that women are falsely accusing their
husbands and boyfriends of domestic violence and if they are screened by
male lawyers they will believe the women are lying."

Well this is why women must realize we can not solve this issue by passing more laws.

Actually the law is men's forte.

They thrive in this sort of setting.

Actually many laws women have EVEN gotten passed to assist us, men have turned around and used against women.

Like imputed income for child support is a good example.

In California now I understand MORE women then men have income imputed to THEM for child support.

NOW this law was originally passed to be used against MEN who were hiding REAL INCOME and ASSETS to make them pay child support. NOT to go after women who were stay-at-home mothers and never worked. Maybe never even filed their own income tax return, so clearly have no income...

Then the must arrest laws...passed because women would frequently lie TO PROTECT THEIR HUSBAND OR B/F FROM ARREST, now I understand some counties have misused these laws and managed to arrest more women then men under them.

Actually one of the western states is being investigated for this to see why so many women are arrested for dv when the rest of the nation has such low figures...so somebody's lying...

I have other examples as it's endless really...

But the point being we must get away from thinking new laws are going to solve these problems...

Women will NEVER win in the legal arena...instead we must return to the idea of natural laws that protect the mother/child bond...almost the way they go back to the constitution to review for orignal intent...the same thing with mothers and children via God, nature, evolution whatever and take the decisions right out of the courts of men...


Posted by: NYMOM at Oct 23, 2005 8:00:53 PM

Nymom you're not suggesting that we live in caves again and cook outside in fire pits, too? How far back would be comfortable for you? The pre-civilization age, or what?

Posted by: ben dover at Oct 23, 2005 9:50:46 PM

Does anyone know which western state arrests more women for DV. I want to know if it might be New Mexico. Incidentally. I wanted to see the PBS show and thought that I had missed it by somehow misunderstanding when the show time was. Now I'm wondering if it showed at all in New Mexico. Does anyone know. EMail me. Please.

Posted by: M. Walsh-Stroh at Oct 31, 2005 3:09:03 PM