December 31, 2004
I Bet Fathers' Rights Advocates Wouldn't Be Happy About This
Like Amanda at Mouse Words, I wonder what the fathers' rights dudes would think of this. They probably won't be happy that mom won the coin flip. They'd demand presumptive 50/50 custody. Then they'd dress as superheroes, scale a building, fall off, and leave a bloody blot on the road.
Friday Cat Blogging
I don't think the camera is going to get fixed. That's too bad, because Lucky has been looking absolutely adorable in his pizzelle box. He's ripped it to shreds, but he still plays with it. We bought Christmas presents for the cats. One spidery-looking toy that has all kinds of things dangling from it. They knock it over all the time. I bought a plastic stick with feathers and bells on the end. Lucky and Beowulf love that toy.
Not having photos of Lucky isn't stopping me from my Friday Cat Blogging. My husband and son have stopped playing Dark Age of Camelot (DAOC). Now, they are hooked on World of Warcraft (WOW). The game isn't one that I'd play myself, but I've enjoyed watching my husband play.
Turns out that you can get pets in WOW. My husband has a cute little Bombay kitten that he got from the "crazy cat lady" just east of Stormwind in Elwynn Forest. He's adorable. We named him JiJi after the cat in the Japanese animated film "Kiki's Delivery Service." You take the cat out of his cat carrier and he follows you around everywhere. He stretches and yawns, too.
There's one quest where you can get a Siamese cat. He has white paws, and looks exactly like one of our cats that died three years ago. My husband has tried that quest several times, but the cat hasn't dropped as part of the loot yet. Give it time.
Here's a screenshot of the Bombay from a WOW web site about the pets you can get in the game. He's a little hard to see. He's right in the middle.
Dead Cow Causes Wreck On Massachusetts Turnpike
I hate driving in Massachusetts. The Mass. Turnpike is a cesspool that gives me panic attacks, not that I ever drive on it because I live too far away from it. Nonetheless, I've been on it, and it was not pleasant experience. I just received word that "A New Jersey truck driver was killed in a head-on crash that began when a tractor-trailer crashed through the center guardrail while trying to avoid a dead cow on the Massachusetts Turnpike."
I have to drive to New Hampshire on Sunday to pick up my son at the airport. I hope I don't run into any cows.
Snapple Apologizes For Insulting Staten Island
Snapple is in hot water for taking a dig at Staten Island. According to an AP article, "The tempest in an iced tea bottle was sparked by the Real Facts Game on the company's Web site, snapple.com, which asked: "What is the most recognized smell in the world?"
The answer: "No, it's not Staten Island. It's coffee."
City Councilman James Oddo said Wednesday that people who don't live on Staten Island "continue to define us by the Fresh Kills landfill despite the fact that Rudy Giuliani closed it and we've moved on past that."
Take that, New Jersey.
Bulwer-Lytton Awards 2004
The Bulwer-Lytton Awards are a contest for the best (or worst, as it may be) skull-numbingly bad fiction in a wide variety of categories. To see all the category winners, go to the Bulwer-Lytton Awards web site.
Here is the grand prize winner. It is a groaner.
"She resolved to end the love affair with Ramon tonight . . . summarily, like Martha Stewart ripping the sand vein out of a shrimp's tail . . . though the term "love affair" now struck her as a ridiculous euphemism . . . not unlike "sand vein," which is after all an intestine, not a vein . . . and that tarry substance inside certainly isn't sand . . . and that brought her back to Ramon."
Manhattan Beach, CA
Beaten While Pregnant
She received a great deal of good advice, mainly people telling her that she needed to get out of that marriage as quickly as possible. She responded to posters in a later post:
I agree that she needs to get out of that marriage. For some women, the first time they experience physical violence is when they are pregnant, and from there it escalates. She is probably scared, hurting, and confused. It sounds as if she has resources at her disposal such as (I believe) a job, support from the message board, credit, possibly a car (she'll need to be able to get around), and support from her family. She is preparing to leave. She has packed her bags. While there have been mixed reactions in Steve's comments section to her transferring her credit debt to her husband's credit cards, she is at least trying to provide for herself as much freedom as possible to get out of that marriage, and for many women financial freedom (lack of debt and access to money) is a big issue. What I fear is that her abusive husband may use the court system to further abuse her once the baby is born. He may fight for custody and try to avoid paying child support. It is well-documented that abusers use the court system in an effort to further frighten and control their victims. Domestic violence shelters are well aware of that problem and have taken steps to protect victims from further legal abuse from their abusers.
Please see my earlier post about the The Second National Battered Mother's Custody Conference, which will be held in Albany, New York in the second week in January. That conference deals with abused mothers who are further abused by their abusive ex's and the court system.
Another thing that concerned me about Steve Gilliard's post was some of the misogynistic, men's rights type commentary from people in his comments section. This was one of the nastier examples:
Amanda at Mouse Words gave the same guy a well-deserved fisking on her blog. Go read it. It's worth the time.
What concerns me about this horrid men's rights attitude about battered women (blaming the victim) is that that same attitude is often present at legislative hearings for domestic violence bills. Men's and fathers' rights advocates think that women and their lawyers frequently fabricate abuse allegations to use as leverage in divorce cases.
The truth is that bona-fide false allegations of abuse are rare. That link provides numerous examples of research that has shown that bona-fide false allegations of abuse are no more likely to occur in the context of divorce and custody cases than they are in the population at large. The same research also shows that only 2 - 8% of allegations of abuse are proven to be false. A study from Canada found that fathers much more so than mothers make false allegations of abuse.
Men's and fathers' rights activists tell legislators that women and lawyers use restraining orders to falsely accuse men of abuse in divorce and custody cases. Another lie. Pauline Quirion, Esq., wrote in her article "Why Attorneys Should Routinely Screen Clients For Domestic Violence" that "[t]he high frequency with which RO's [sic] are issued might lead some skeptics to assume that these orders are granted too easily for minor offenses and almost any man is at risk of being a defendant. The data from the new RO database in Massachusetts reflect otherwise. Men against whom RO's have been used are clearly not a random draw from the population. They are likely to have a criminal history, often reflective of violent behavior toward others."
Men's and fathers' rights activists also tell legislators during hearings about domestic violence bills that women are as abusive as men, and that "battered men" is a national problem that is ignored by feminists. More lies. 95% of all victims of domestic violence are women. Men's and father's rights advocates use the discredited Conflict Tactic Scales in a bean-counting way to tally up individual physical "hits" in a situation to supposedly show that women beat up men as much as men beat up women. This misuse of the CTS does not take into account the cycle of abuse, the power and control issues inherent in abuse, the characteristics of the individual situation, and the history of the abusive relationship. They isolate "hits" to come up with a false positive.
The types of misogynistic comments in Steve Gilliard's comments section are much more common than you'd think. Men's and fathers' rights advocates dive-bomb legislative hearings about pending domestic violence bills in order to destroy protections for abused women, and they spread those same misogynistic points of view. Thankfully, no one listens to them, but that doesn't stop them from spreading their propaganda.
December 30, 2004
And They Were Expecting Handel's "Messiah"...
A family in Ohio turned on the tube expecting to see choirs perform holiday music on Christmas morning. Instead, they got hard-core porn. The teenagers weren't in the room. The parents called the cable company to complain. Whoever put the wrong tape in is probably going to get a pink slip as a late Christmas gift.
Another Dumbass Christmas Criminal
Must be the time of year. Snow on the brain: "A Christmas morning burglar was caught after he left a trail of footprints through the first snow to hit Brownsville in 109 years." The police followed his trail through the snow.
Do Your Kid A Favor And Don't Name Him "Hawkweed"
Here they are: the least popular baby names for 2004.
Least Popular Boy's Names
Beelzebub (Heh heh, Sheelz. At least it's not you.)
Scrote (you've gotta be fucking kidding me...)
Least Popular Girl's Names
Rack (Oh, for God's sake...)
Here are the top ten baby names for 2004. I think the names in parentheses were the winners last year.
Top Ten Boy's Names
Top Ten Girl's Names
The Top 10 Paranormal Events of 2004
I love paranormal shit. This is a link to a list of the top 10 paranormal events of 2004. My favorite is below. I called a troll who attacked me in comments a "skunk ape," and now you know what it is. This skunk ape called blogger Upyernoz "upyercunt." He was a real prize.
I'm going to call the next troll who annoys me an "oozebag." My son came up with that one. Heh heh.
"Woman Surprises a Skunk Ape – Large, hairy ape-like creatures have been reported in every state of the U.S. In the Pacific northwest it’s called Sasquatch. In places like Ohio it’s known as Bigfoot. But in Florida and a few other southern states, the tall, upright walking hominid is called the Skunk Ape. A highly credible sighting of the Skunk Ape was reported in August by Jennifer Ward as she was driving home with her children on a dark rural road. It was crouching in a ditch, but as she slowed her car to see it better, the creature stood to its full six- to eight-foot height. “When he saw me, he was as surprised as I was,” Ward told the newspapers. She described it as being covered almost completely with dark hair about two inches long, white areas around the eyes, and full lips that had the color and texture of the pad on a dog’s paw. This kind of detail is most compelling and is good evidence that there really are unknown creatures out there."
This one was especially weird:
"Stones from Her Eyes - If you think stones raining from the sky are unusual, how about when they drop out of a girl’s eyes? In October, a 15-year-old girl from Jharkhand, India was taken to a hospital because tiny stones were emerging from the corners of her eyes. The doctors admitted they had never seen anything like it and were at a loss to explain it. Before the stones dropped out, the girl reported terrible headaches (as you can imagine). Oh yes, the stones also appeared out of her ears and nose as well. “Stones from the eyes is a strange phenomenon as this has not even found mention in medical literature," one of the doctors said."