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February 05, 2004

Fathers' Rights Activist Kidnapped His Son

Update - March 4, 2004: Alec Jaks has been found in the Dominican Republic and is back with his mother. Lowell Jaks is in custody and will shortly be extradited to California.

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Lowell Jaks, founder of the Alliance for Non-Custodial Parents Rights (ANCPR), which is a particularly nasty fathers' rights group, has kidnapped his son.

I've had a recent run-in with Jaks. On January 6, he sent me an e-mail with a link and copy of an article about a New York judge who had "resigned after he was accused of saying most women enjoy abuse and ask to get "smacked around" and that domestic violence cases are a waste of the court's time." Jaks is of the opinion that women are just as if not more abusive than men, a common father's rights complaint that is frequently held by batterers.

He addressed his subject line to me, personally. It said "Thought you might get a "kick" out of this."

I replied in kind, saying "Sorry, someone else already "beat" you to the "punch." Saw it several hours before you sent it."

At the time I thought it surprising that he would have the cheek to write to me like that. I wondered what the hell provoked him. Lots of fathers' rights advocates read my blog and my web site. I sometimes get e-mail from them. More often, they tend to gnash their teeth on mailing lists and public message board forums. I've read some Trish-bashing in blog entries. A few fathers' rights advocates have created entire web pages and at least one web site devoted to trashing me.

In hindsight, it seems that Jaks been gearing up for some truly heinous behavior.

Fathers' rights activists have used Missing Child databases and the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children to their benefit to track down their own ex's who flee with the children to protect themselves from domestic violence and child abuse. I bet John Walsh didn't expect his databases to be used by abusers, but there you have it. Now we have a man, a leader in the fathers' rights movement, who chose to kidnap his son rather than pay the child support he owes.

Jaks's son is listed on the NCMEC database. I'll provide the entire contents plus a link in my next post.

Below is e-mail I have received from a colleague about the kidnapping. AUM is the father's rights mailing list American Union of Men. Wilbur Streett is another awful fathers' rights advocate who frequently posts to Usenet.

Would someone go to the links for ANCPR and AUM and please explain to me how these two groups are concerned with the welfare of children? I must be missing something. Fathers' rights groups always talk about how they only want children to have two parents and how moms and dads must work together for the sake of the child. I can't see any evidence of either line of thought in all the muck about false allegations of abuse, and women being more abusive than men, and children not being safe around mothers, and men being driven to suicide by the evil family court system and their greedy ex-bitches, and morons who dress up like Spider-Man to protest fathers' allegedly being stripped of their rights, and ranting about feminists, and more ranting about their ex-wives and girlfriends, and on, and on, and on, ad infinitum....

If anyone reading this post and the next one see either Lowell Jaks or his son, Alec, please call 911.


Wed Feb 4, 2004 3:16 am
Subject: parents rights advocate suspected of abducting his own son


From Wilbur Streett / fwd via [AUM]

(02-02) 07:57 PST RIDGECREST, Calif. (AP) --

A parents rights advocate is wanted by police, suspected of abducting his own son, officers said.

Lowell Anton Jaks, 52, has a $100,000 felony warrant out for his arrest after Alec Norman Jaks disappeared last Tuesday morning on his way to Pierce Elementary School.

Elaine Jackson, Lowell Jaks' ex-wife and the child's mother, had asked for a protective order on Jan. 21, when she first started suspecting her husband intended to take her child away.

Her suspicions began three weeks ago, when she drove with her son past a passport photos store and the 10-year-old told her he'd applied for a passport there with his dad.

A week later, Jaks placed ads in the local paper seeking to sell most of his belongings, and got rid of his dogs, Jackson said.

She still allowed her son to ride to school on his bike, but when he didn't come home at the end of the day, she called the school, and found out he'd never arrived.

"I immediately called the police," Jackson said.

Police in Chino, 112 miles from Ridgecrest, on Saturday found a silver-gray pickup that Lowell Jaks rented from the Ridgecrest Enterprise Rent-A-Car.

Jackson is afraid Jaks, who speaks some Spanish, took their son out of the country.

Jaks founded the nonprofit Alliance for Non-Custodial Parents Rights in 1994, soon after his marriage to Jackson, because he had been married before and did not want to pay child support for his daughter. The organization's Web site gives tips on how to avoid paying child support.

A 2002 Associated Press article about violence among divorced fathers quotes Jaks, the president of the organization, as saying: "None of these guys are poster children. But when you cause this much pain to so many men, there are going to be repercussions. A certain percentage are going to crack."

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Boy Allegedly Abducted By Father
School Failed To Notify Mother Of Child's Absence

POSTED: 10:15 p.m. PST February 2, 2004
UPDATED: 10:26 p.m. PST February 2, 2004

RIDGECREST, Calif. -- A Ridgecrest's woman's 10-year-old son, Alec, is missing, and authorities fear the boy's father has abducted the child and taken him out of the country.

"I said goodbye. I gave him a kiss -- we kiss each other goodbye every morning before school," said mother Elaine Jackson. "He rode off down the road."

Jackson says when Alec left for school on Tuesday morning, he took his bicycle and his usual route through the desert to school. He never arrived, and the elementary school didn't call to let her know.

"He normally comes home at 3:30 p.m., and I didn't know until about 3:40 that something was wrong," Jackson said.

Because her ex-husband Lowell Jaks had been telling people he and his son were moving out of the country, Elaine knew her worst nightmare had come true -- her son had been abducted by his father.

Jackson gained full custody of her son because of the father's threats to flee the country.

Investigator Charles Brown said they believe the two have left the United States.

"He sold his things and told people that he and his son were leaving," Brown said.

No Amber Alert was issued in this case, even though it was clear to the authorities that Jaks planned to take his son out of the country.

"We asked repeatedly (for it), but they just decided it didn't meet the criteria," Jackson said.

Jackson must now face the reality that she may not be able to see or hear from Alec for an indeterminate amount of time.

If you have any information about the disappearance of Alec Jaks and his father Lowell Jaks, call 911.

Posted on February 5, 2004 at 05:03 AM | Permalink

Comments

>>Jaks founded the nonprofit Alliance for Non-Custodial Parents Rights in 1994, soon after his marriage to Jackson, because he had been married before and did not want to pay child support for his daughter. The organization's Web site gives tips on how to avoid paying child support.<<

PLEASE start smacking the second whines now. Makes me want to go post on AOHell....

Posted by: Moi ;) at Feb 6, 2004 3:55:55 PM

Would someone go to the links for ANCPR and AUM and please explain to me how these two groups are concerned with the welfare of children? I must be missing something. Fathers' rights groups always talk about how they only want children to have two parents and how moms and dads must work together for the sake of the child.

Well, I see no one came forth to explain it now did they? Wonder why..... NOT. lol

I read an interesting comment on another blog Rubber Hose, and he pretty much nailed both Jaks and the groups without much difficulty at all.

He stated ... "but when i read some of these sites, they ooze bitterness and hostility to women but seem to be utterly without any real argument or evidence that the system is biased against them other than their own anectdotes. it is hard to see how they can ever hope to win over anyone who isn't already predisposed to see their point of view. ..."

and

... as for lowell jaks. over the years, he has apparently claimed to be an advocate for the father's rights movement. but when someone is an advocate for a movement, that generally means that they are advocating for a cause, not just for themselves. when lowell kidnapped his son, he showed his true colors. kidnapping did nothing to aid his cause. ...

I just snipped those few lines... he said more and I suggest that anyone go over to his blog and read the entire comment.

Posted by: Chief at Feb 19, 2004 9:33:16 AM

No,Jaks kidnapping his own son did nothing for him or the cause of father's rights. You're right about that and it doesn't take a law degree to figure that one out. But thank God we have Attorney Jeffrey Leving here in Chicago,who took our case to the public and has spoken before congress.

Your pal makes more obvious points...father's who write in griping about the unfairness of their individual cases. They're angry and they're usually not so very well read or spoken as you and your pal are. And as such, their speaking or writing reflects it. It's not much of a stretch to muddle and convalute their message because of their lack of articulation is it? Not when pitted against such intellectuals as you guys right?

Your lawyer friend benefits from father's rights abuse. He makes more money and scores more political brownie-points when he advises mothers in divorce to conduct a campaign of carnage that will result in long, drawn-out, expensive litigation so he can petition the judge to order the father to pick up the legal fees tab, then sue the father to collect if the father's broke. And with all these protracted cases taking up so much docket time, more and more tax dollars are needed for brand new court houses and additional support staff. And HEY...if you can do that every year and show the cases to the feds, then the additionally federal tax dollars coming in makes it all the sweeter. That way, everybody wins...except the dad and the kids.

The kids end up not seeing as much of dad because dad is working double and sometimes TRIPLE the hours to make up the loss. Then the mom says, "Well since you don't have much of a relationship with your kids because work is 'more important'(snarky sarcasm)then you can't see them at all." So now we got MORE costly litigation to deal with. Hell, why WOULD your pal want any of that to change? No wonder fathers are angry...

When slavery was legal, did lack of education stifle the validity of their cry for reform or discrimination? Did the Black Panther's violent militinism hurt their cause?

What about feminism. Was each individual voice of brave women fed up with being treated like property, reason to invalidate the collective voice of feminism and women everywhere?

Back during those times, it was the law...so were they all criminals? Were they all just disgruntled antagonists who needed to stop crying like babies and live with it?

You may thinks Jaks 'no so bright' move hurt the issue of father's rights, or that neither the legislative, administrative or judicial branch aren't listening to grieving fathers, but you're wrong...they're listening NOW and formulating better laws that insure fathers don't lose their children to selfish, controlling, greed motivated mothers and self-serving lawyers who advise women in divorce to be as adversarial as possible.
Oh, they won't say so out loud, anymore than they said out loud, what the REAL reason for welfare reform was...

Bennett was right...your ilk is bad for feminism. Feminists and Masculinists are about equality, fairness and putting aside differences for the benefit of ALL chidren. Now and in the future.

Divorce is tough enough. Kids don't want to lose either their mom OR dad. And they damn sure don't want to get programmed or brainwashed either. That's how they end up in therapy, on anti-depressents, out on the street rebelling, or on drugs and jammed up in crime.

You make snide comments about a movement because YOUR pissed at the fact that it's made up of MEN.
It wouldn't matter if we started a men's group in general and debated the notion of how the popular term "REAL MAN" has put us in a position where we have to PROVE ourselves everytime we hear the term, or we statred a cooking club, you'd still have a problem with it.You don't talk to men or listen to their concerns, you attack them. You probably don't even like the sound of the word MEN. The only men you acknowledge are men who pander to YOU and put YOU on a pedestal. So who's REALLY about control?

Real men admit that wife beaters and child abandoners are the scum of the earth. But you won't admit that women abuse men OR children. You KNOW that they do...but you just will not admit. You'll even go so far as to qualify it.

You sit on the sidelines and take great humor and comfort in shooting down something that doesn't affect you. You try to speak for ALL women, but you really only speak for those just like you. BUT thankfully, there aren't that many of you left. Real women don't want what you want. Joint custody and equal access are what they want. They know how to seperate hard feelings between themselves and their ex's and that hard feelings from EITHER side can only be placated by the happiness of children who know that both mom and dad love them very much, and that mom AND dad will ALWAYS be there.

Dads are GOING to be Dads. You can insult and try to manipulate or invalidate all you want but it WILL happen. Because that's all dads want...to just be dads.

Posted by: Michael Capanzzi at Feb 19, 2004 1:20:05 PM

"Jaks's son is listed on the NCMEC database. I'll provide the entire contents plus a link in my next post."

and

"If anyone reading this post and the next one see either Lowell Jaks or his son, Alec, please call 911."

Anybody know or seen a link on any Father's Rights sites that have posted the NCMEC poster or that have asked if anyone knows any information to please contact the FBI or call 911?

Hey Michael... you seen any? IMO, that alone speaks volumes. If the FRsters are saying that what Jaks did was wrong (kidnapping) then why aren't they demanding he return his son? That would be the right thing to do wouldn't it?

Posted by: at Feb 19, 2004 3:32:43 PM

I don't know WHAT they're saying and I don't care. If you don't like that organization then continue ripping into them. I'm not a member. I'm a member of Masculiste.
If what you all are saying about their group is true, then they don't speak for me, my kids or the father's rights group as a whole. Their just a bunch of militant assholes trying to get headlines. If what you're saying is true...And the state of Ca. DOES have an Amber Alert on them so they really don't NEED one out on Jaks because everyone in the group already KNOWS who he is.

And all that has nothing to do with fathers rights. As always, you're taking a group that you despise and using them to shoot down a "principle" thats right and good. It might make you a cagey debater, but it doesn't make you right.

There isn't a logical thinking person in this country who doesn't know that fathers get the shaft in custody issues. Dads are turned into visitors. That is wrong plain and simple.
Please stop being about supremacy and get back to equality. Women have kidnapped their children too...what about the boy on the news who found out on the internet that he was listed as abducted. Yes, his mother was a kidnapper for 14 years. It's no worse or better than Jaks.

Posted by: Michael Capanzzi at Feb 19, 2004 4:27:36 PM

hey michael,

my pal chief alerted me to this thread. just wondering, but were you referring to me when you said "Your lawyer friend benefits from father's rights abuse. He makes more money and scores more political brownie-points when he advises mothers in divorce to conduct a campaign of carnage that will result in long, drawn-out, expensive litigation so he can petition the judge to order the father to pick up the legal fees tab, then sue the father to collect if the father's broke."

because me and chief are pals and because i mentioned i am a lawyer in the post that chief quoted, i wonder if i am this "lawyer friend" you refer to in the above quote.. if so, you are somewhat mistaken. i never said i do divorce cases. in fact, if you read my post that chief references, i mention that i have little first-hand knowledge of family law. my specialty is labor law--i mostly represent people who are fired or about to be terminated. so i beg to differ that i "benefit from father's rights abuse."

Posted by: upyernoz at Feb 19, 2004 5:27:24 PM


"Anybody know or seen a link on any Father's Rights sites that have posted the NCMEC poster or that have asked if anyone knows any information to please contact the FBI or call 911?"

"IMO, that alone speaks volumes. If the FRsters are saying that what Jaks did was wrong (kidnapping) then why aren't they demanding he return his son? That would be the right thing to do wouldn't it?"

Of course you won't see that NCMEC poster on any of their web sites. That's because lots of those guys are supporting Jaks kidnapping his son. There are plenty of posts of that sort on their mailing lists. The others are distancing themselves from what Jaks has done because they know it makes the movement look really bad. That's where all the talk about "extremist" vs. "legitimate" fathers' rights groups comes from. It's a serious case of backpedaling. I saw this same sort of backpedaling in public and cheering in private when Fathers' Manifesto was outed in the mid 1990s.

Posted by: Trish Wilson at Feb 19, 2004 5:42:35 PM

UpYerNose wrote:

"i have little first-hand knowledge of family law. my specialty is labor law-"

You've probably saved yourself years of grief and bruises from banging your forehead on the wall by avoiding family law. LOL

Posted by: Trish Wilson at Feb 19, 2004 5:52:14 PM

yeah, my mother still practices in that area and i grew up seeing the head banging... and the phone calls from pissed clients at 2 a.m.
after that i did my best to totally avoid the subject in law school. i never even took the family law class.

Posted by: upyernoz at Feb 19, 2004 9:04:28 PM

PLEASE start smacking the second whines now. Makes me want to go post on AOHell....

LOLOL -- you know that's always welcome!! I posted the truth about Mr. Jaks and his newest method for avoiding child support and the $hit hit the proverbial fan on two board. LOLOL Wanna guess which ones they were? ;)

Posted by: Mommy at Feb 19, 2004 9:18:38 PM

Hey Michael... you seen any? IMO, that alone speaks volumes. If the FRsters are saying that what Jaks did was wrong (kidnapping) then why aren't they demanding he return his son? That would be the right thing to do wouldn't it?


Boy, ain't that the truth? Another "right thing" to do would be boycotting his website which funded this little endeavor. Why anyone would support a post or organization headed by a deadbeat kidnapper is beyond me. Call me crazy -- but supporting someone who clearly cares NOTHING for the needs or feelings of their child just seems kind of JAKKED to me. PUN INTENDED!!

Posted by: Mommy at Feb 19, 2004 9:23:26 PM

>yeah, my mother still practices in that area and i grew up seeing
>the head banging... and the phone calls from pissed clients at
>2 a.m. after that i did my best to totally avoid the subject
>in law school. i never even took the family law class.

That's why I prefer the research, social science,and public policy. Family law lawyers can't win. If they win a case, their clients don't think they won enough. If they lose... well, you can guess. I understand that arbitration is more popular because people's emotions don't get in the way. Plus I believe family law is at the low end of the status totem pole.

Posted by: Trish Wilson at Feb 20, 2004 3:56:20 AM

>Makes me want to go post on AOHell....

Damn, where's the Lysol? Gotta clean my computer screen now. LOL

Posted by: Trish Wilson at Feb 20, 2004 3:56:46 AM

You have got to be the most distorted, perverted bitch on this planet. YOUR fu**in' family court system took away the last few decent days of Wilbur Streett's life. Some god-damned family court judge put this honorable man in jail for non-payment, when he knew Wilbur was on his last days from Lou Gehrig's disease.

All of you c*nts need to be strung up in the public square. Hate for women? Whbat the fu** do you expect, you twisted maternalists? It's always been my opinion that the problem is not gender related, it's the laws. You and your filthy, un-american, man-hating, dyke sisterhood makes me think otherwise. Puke on all of you filthy maternalists!

Posted by: at Sep 11, 2004 9:01:20 AM

Don't you dare come to my blog and try to pass off Wilbur Streett as a fathers' rights martyr. Every time one of your kind commits suicide, loses his job, kills himself and his family, otherwise dies, or ends up in jail you always try to pass him off as a victim of "the system" or of a hateful, bitter ex. That's pure, unadulterated bullshit. You guys need to wake up and take responsibility for your crappy behavior and not blame it on the family court or on your ex's. Get over your overblown senses of entitlement. Wilbur Streett's death has nothing to do with Lowell Jaks. Jaks is exactly where he deserves to be - in jail for a year. I wish more of your kind would suffer the proper consequences of the hideous way you treat your ex's and your children. It would be a better world if that happened.

Posted by: Trish Wilson at Sep 11, 2004 2:31:39 PM

It's the court system. Okay, then why do all the c*nts need to be strung up?

Posted by: Amanda at Sep 11, 2004 4:06:22 PM

I think that you are all blinded by your own hatred. That uy can't even stop long enough to realize that in the battle with your ex's the only person that u are hurting is your children. Stop all of this selfish bullshit...Stop trying to fix the system from the outside because it will trample u..If u want to fix it become part of it otherwise, just accept that it's fucked up and avoid it if at all possible. There is more to life than fighting with one another. Think about how much time you all waste fighting over this crap when you could be talking to your husbands or wives!!! You take things for granted until they are gone and then you feel sorry for urself for a while and then forget the person even existed. My dad was a real man....we are all real people...some of us good some of us bad...Stop trying to figure out where other people are coming from..whether they are good or bad and start worrying about yourselves and what you are doing. You can't change or control other people u egotistical control freaks.. I know that I am going to get flamed for this message but bring it on...It's true!!! Everything I have said in this email is 100% true. I'm an 18 year old that lost her father, and then when I type in his name I have to read u people saying "Oh he was wonderful" or "oh, he was an asshole". FUCK ALL OF YOU!!! You never really got to know him...u used him and abused him....when he was no good to you any more you threw him away and that is the truth...wake up...you want a change??? change urselves..until ur perfect...quit ur bitching.....u will all be judged when ur time comes...so stop judging others.

Posted by: Kimberly Streett at Mar 3, 2005 6:24:09 PM